How to get baby to sleep.

[Horehound]

My boy is 19 weeks and generally only goes down after falling asleep on me. Either feeding or just being walked about.
In the last few days when i put him into his cot he cries pretty much immediately. Or turns into his tummy and then cries.
I don't want to do the cry it out method but I'm bit sure how to get him to self sooth if he just cries immediately?!

Aw @bertiebotts thanks so much for that post and all the info...that's great. I will check out those books/authors and I know you are right. There's so much bumf on the internet that you can get sucked into and actually probably creates more issues than if I just looked after him the way he and I both want.
I just need to become more sure of myself I think and stop thinking of the "should be doing by X" type stuff.

Oh and night night!

I wouldn’t worry about him sleeping at nursery. I used to work in a nursery, mainly with under 2’s, and we got them all to nap one way or another and they very rarely used to get properly upset about it.
Some used to fight sleep more than others, but kids accept things are different with different adults. Just like you and his Dad probably do things differently with him.
Some Mum’s carry on breastfeeding for example when the baby starts nursery, so they’ll have milk in a cup when they’re there, but would totally refuse if Mum offered milk in a cup at home.

@Horehound she comes up with us, between 9 and 10. Last feed in bed and usually sleeping by half ten if not before. I know what you mean about getting some adult time in the evening but I’m not going to push it. May try 8 at some point as then dh still gets time with her and we get time together. She sleeps til around 7.30 which I class as a win (with many wake ups in between but that is another matter!)

OP have you tried putting a warm hot water bottle in his crib before you cuddle him to sleep? It might be temperature change that wakes him when you transfer him, but if you've warmed the mattress with the bottle first he might not notice as fast.. Worth a shot perhaps, and a shirt you were wearing before to go in so the crib smells like you.

at that age I discovered that DS would only nap laid next to me on the sofa, for ages I tried and tried to get him to go in the cot because MIL said it would be a problem. When I stopped, and started just letting him nap on the sofa with me I relaxed so much more - I'd get a good 2 hours break and was able to switch off. He's almost 4 now, he likes a story and a cuddle at bedtime then tells me to go and close the door when I leave. I miss him napping next to me.