hi well here is another post from me because I really do not know what to do and wish that there's somebody on here that has been in the same position and what they did.after years of arguing on and off with my husband and putting up with him punching holes through doors shouting at my two eldest children and saying that he doesn't fancy me or find me attractive because I don't have sex with him the list goes on and on I have had enough. We have five children the youngest 3 together the two oldest are mine from a previous.he never helps me round the house he does work hard but that is all he says that he works hard he pays the mortgage and bills and bought me a car car.we have a big house that isn't always easy for me to look after with a toddler on my own. And I also work from home as well. I do everything. the last straw was when I asked for some money for some food and he told me that I should have put some by because he hasn't had work for a week because of Christmas so I had to pay the window cleaner but he went out and got his truck learnt while my car sat there and cleaned because I use the money for the window cleaner and food. He then said that he was going to buy a flat and move into it and things didn't work out he's always threatening to go to Spain to save his brothers or buy a flat and move out.he says nasty things in arguments and gets personal I have never with him and when I cry he said that I'm bawling.I have said I've had enough and I want to split up and all his said is he can't lose the house that he's put all his money into but I said where else can me and five children all live even renting would be pointless because you're not going to make any money out the house what choice have we got there settled in good schools.he has booked marriage guidance which I'm willing to go along to just so at least they can point out that he has anger issues as he feels that he doesn't. he helped with the kids last night and kept on asking if I wanted anything else done but this is the first time he is actually panicked but I'm serious now and have stopped crying and I feel that he thinks I'm being cold and he's trying to be joking laughing and play full which is now making me feel guilty for splitting up the family because I have been through a breakup before and I know it is horrible having separate holidays Christmas is etc but after nine years I have just had enough and fill in my heart that I no longer love him and I don't think I will change.