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Childcare - how!?

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AllMouthandTrousers · 13/01/2020 06:13

Please god help me: if you work from, say, 7am and there isn't another caregiver in the home, how do you deal with childcare? Someone to get the child to school etc??

I am being held to ransom by the hobby business that wrecked my marriage and bled me dry, 2years on!

exDH lives in a very affluent area in a property his brother lets him live in for nothing. Stupidly I poured everything into exDHs 'business' incl £22k inheritance from my grandmother. Because husband earns nothing (£100/wk) and owns nothing other than business-related sundries (all assets in brother's name) I am walking away with nothing, no savings, pension, income, property...

Because said area is remote, employment is virtually non existant. I can find cheap housing and work, but only so far away it makes it impossible to see DD. Husband's "business" is on a path into the ground (I know it intimately, I ran it!) and the housing he and DD lives in comes on the whim of the brother - it's not secure at all. Yet exDH is still actively REFUSING to get a job, or change anything, so I am stuck with it too.

I have busted. my. ass. to get a job that will pay enough to house and provide childcare for myself and DD for TWO YEARS now to free ourselves of this hobby business twat and all I have currently to show for it is a very dodgy min. wage agency role which could vanish at any minute. I also barely see my daughter, as my working hours are making it pointless to travel over there (I am sofa surfing).

I am GOOD at running a house, too - he is shit, and sends our daughter to school scruffy :( I should be at home taking care of her but his hobby £100/week business is ruining all our lives!? If I could just get that childcare...no grandparents or friends to help btw :(

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AllMouthandTrousers · 13/01/2020 06:15

I should add - having been self employed since 2008 and on a low income due to said hobby "business" I really struggle to find credit, landlords etc etc that will give me the time of day, let alone mortgage (with no deposit, I'm still paying off £15k debt from marriage)!

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AllMouthandTrousers · 13/01/2020 10:12

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