Can you change midwife?

[Ginger13]

I'm 8+4 and haven't actually met with her yet. I got an email saying I'd missed my appointment and that the number she has for me is wrong. After she gave me her number I looked and saw I had a missed call from her a few weeks ago, she didn't leave a voicemail or anything so she does have my number. So she obviously forgot to call me back and booked me in without actually telling me anything so pretended my number was wrong. Then when I called her back she wasn't at the office so said she would call back to book something. She didn't call back so I text two days later (yesterday). I'm going to call her again on Monday but I'm really not happy about having her as my midwife now. I know she's obviously very busy but she's forgotten twice and saying my number is wrong after one missed call. It's my first pregnancy and I have no idea what's going on. Has anyone had a similar experience?

It’s highly likely you will see multiple midwifes over the course of your pregnancy (I didn’t see the same one twice before I had my baby) so don’t worry. Just remember that they’ll be at the business end when the time comes, so don’t make any enemies unnecessarily!

Are you planning a home birth? My midwife in my second pregnancy was lovely and helped coordinate my delivery (though baby chose a day she wasn’t working and colleagues attended). So the second midwife was really useful.
In my first pregnancy the midwife did very little. I remember I saw the gp and midwife but the important stuff was all at the hospital. I didn’t like that midwife as it happens but it didn’t matter.

Unlikely she would leave a voicemail for reasons of confidentiality
Might not be your phone or your pregnancy might still be secret.
If she was called out during the night she might be off the next day to make up for this -often happens in community-then all her plans and tasks for that day have to wait until she is next in.
They are very short staffed and stretched managing complex social cases as well as complex pregnancies and deliveries.
I would phone and organise your booking appt and take it from there.
(Not a midwife by the way but I do work closely with them and it's a tough job like everyone else in nhs just now).

I think what we are telling you is to meet her and see what she is like in person. And if you are having a hospital delivery that is extremely unlikely to be her. But yes, you can change where you receive your healthcare.