Online dating app (happy to pay) which is the besy

[lovemenorca]

It hit me yesterday - 3 years post divorce - that I am finally ready for a new relationship.

The problem is - I don’t have much opportunity to meet people as two primary children and i work.

So... OLD. It’s very intimidating though, as so much choice!

What’s best for a woman in late thirties? Happy to pay

Many thanks

Bumble is great.

I wouldn’t bother paying, I had no luck on paying sites.

Met my partner on Tinder of all places. Plenty of Fish is ok but a lot of guys just looking for hook ups on there so be prepared for that.

Bumble was my fave.

I'm getting on well with bumble. Like miniloso I had less success on a paid for site (e harmony). I paid for a boost on bumble and wouldn't do that again.

@Miniloso

Intrigued your favourite is bumble but you met your partner on tinder?!

Interesting re no point paying. I’d assumed paying would demo more invested rather than hook ups? Clearly not.

My brother has suggested hinge is best for women?

Match worked brilliantly for me. Met my DH on the first day I signed up.

My brother met his gf on bumble - he thought it was great as he doesn't have the confidence to message women first. I've heard lots of positives about it but personally I wouldn't want to do the first contact, I prefer men to be able to message me first. I met my DP on plenty of fish.

Thank you!

Feel a mix of nerves and excitement that taking a step forward.

I’ll sign up with bumble and guardian soulmates I think

Just seen your update re payment - I used to focus mainly on men that had a paid version of plenty of fish as would expect them to be less likely to want something casual or be on various sites at the same time.
My DP actually wasn't a paid member though, and I only met him as I forgot to change the age limit to over 30s only (he was 28 and I was 33). I had a wobble over whether I should have bothered having a profile and set it to mute, but he'd already messaged me so I replied - and he's exactly what I wanted. I did meet some complete knobs and time wasters on there the previous times I was on though.

Bumble and tinder are similar but in bumble only the females are allowed to make contact if you both match. It saves a lot of bad openers from men but it means you have to think of your own opener. I preferred tinder and met some nice men on there. I tried match and found it awful- lots of much older men sending multiple messages and then calling me rude for not replying within a day. On tinder you can spot someone just out for a hook up a mile off and avoid.

I met my DH on Pof and I only ever used Pof. However I had friends and sisters on other dating sites and they said lots of the guys on Pof were also on other dating sites so I don't think it's worth paying. It took me about 2 years to find someone on there I was happy with. Although I had a lot of interest from men, there's a wide range of people and some of them can be odd or may just not be the right fit for you, so don't expect to fall in love right away. Be patient.