No affection from DH

[Moominmummy12]

It’s been going on for a while now. He wasn’t particularly demonstrative before but now it’s got to the point where he doesn’t kiss/hold hands anything. I think I just got used to it. But seeing other couples being normal has just highlighted it.
He’s a good man but I just don’t know if I can spend the rest of my life living like this. Have 1 dc aged 8. Married 18 years.Really don’t want to break up but just don’t even know how to broach subject. I just feel cross and/or sad all the time.

Anyone?

Me and my DH fell out of holding hands etc and I felt like you. This was about 10 years ago when we were about 20 years married. I deliberately started to ‘casually’ touch him by putting a hand on his arm or on his shoulder. Then I went from there and even suggested we sit together on one steer to watch a shared T V programme. I really worked hard at spiralling the casual contact slowly (for my sake as well as his!) and now, 10 years on, we kiss as we pass, hold hands when we walk, grab a feel of a buttock every now and again. Give it a go. Nothing to lose.

‘Settee’ ffs!

I’ve tried but it always feels like me making the effort. So demoralising.