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Is there a way to identify this troll

42 replies

MadderthanAWetHam · 10/01/2020 12:09

I’ve never had an issue like this

I’ll try to be brief-

I have a FB account- good privacy settings, don’t accept friend requests from people who don’t know me well or who I wouldn’t share a photo of my child would etc.

I don’t and never have had my official surname on my FB account.

On New Year’s Eve I received a really disgusting text with regards to one of my children.
It was foul.

I disregarded it as a troll and didn’t respond -

A couple of days ago my husband (who uses his name on Facebook had a flurry of messages from the same account) he didn’t know about the messages I received previously -

He asked who the person was (he didn’t recognise the name) and was told
“You don’t know me bit your wife (Insert name) will” -using my unusual first name

They proceeded to send more vile messages and he blocked them

Is there anyway to identify who this was

They created an account minutes before their original messages to me and there’s a generic profile pic of a sunset

I’m upset as I’m shocked that someone who clearly knows my family would be so vile about an 11 year old

It’s someone we know as you would not be able to link me to my husband or children online through name.

The profile name they made is significant to my family but only people who have been close to me would know that.

I feel really sorry for them but I want to know who’s being so snakey ?

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 10/01/2020 12:15

Ok then it's someone close to you. Can I ask what they said about your child? Could it be another child? Has there been some form of issue?

Haworthia · 10/01/2020 12:18

Troll is a strange word to use.

Trolls exist on the internet and stir up shit for fun. This is a person harassing you in real life. You received a vile abusive text about one of your children and you dismissed it as a “troll”?

This ain’t no troll.

Apolloanddaphne · 10/01/2020 12:26

I agree this is not a troll. This is someone who is targeting you specifically. I don't know anything about FB so i can't help with what you should do about it but I think you do need to take it seriously. Are they making threats? If so you could go to the police?

OnTheEdgeOfTheNight · 10/01/2020 12:27

On New Year’s Eve I received a really disgusting text with regards to one of my children.
It was foul.

How would the person have your phone number to text you? Are you on WhatsApp groups where you don't know everyone well?

MrsAgassi · 10/01/2020 12:29

What were they saying about your child? I presume they were talking about one child but that you have more than one?

If the focus was on one of your children then is there anyone this child has had a falling out with recently?

I have no idea how you would find out, but I hope you do.

BoreOfWhabylon · 10/01/2020 12:29

I'd speak to the police about this

busyweeks78 · 10/01/2020 12:29

The police would be able to track where the message has come from.

EpcotForever · 10/01/2020 12:29

Do you still have the number the text message came from?

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 10/01/2020 12:32

I would talk to your 11yo and try to find out whether he's being bullied at school, maybe by a former 'friend'?

ShirleyPhallus · 10/01/2020 12:32

Save the number then goggle it, put it in to Facebook, open it in WhatsApp to see if they have a picture, call it from withheld number

Schoolchoicesucks · 10/01/2020 12:34

If your DC is 11 could it have been from someone they know rather than an adult?

EmmiJay · 10/01/2020 12:35

What Shirley P said. Unless the messages were sent through fb or a payg sim.

Shouldbedoing · 10/01/2020 12:36

Just go to the Police.

Randomnameforme · 10/01/2020 12:53

Go to the police first and foremost.

Have you googled their number? Or put it into WhatsApp to see if theres an image

OldEvilOwl · 10/01/2020 12:55

Do you still have the text/number?

namechange1041 · 10/01/2020 13:02

I would go to the police too. I'd need to know who this is in real life, they clearly have a grudge of some sort.
What a nasty piece of work.
I hope you get it sorted out OP, please get the police involved!
Good luck

RidgedPerfection · 10/01/2020 13:04

The Police will be able to find them; definitely report.

crazycatladi · 10/01/2020 13:05

as hard as it is don't react, save all the conversations and go to the police

zoobincan · 10/01/2020 13:07

Bloody hell go to the police, this is real life and your child could be at risk

81Byerley · 10/01/2020 13:26

I would report it to the police.

Beautiful3 · 10/01/2020 13:30

Report to police.

jamesforagirl · 10/01/2020 13:31

What is it this person is trying to tell you anonymously?

I had lots of messages (along with other people) via messenger from a fake profile with screenshots of text messages between a relative and his bit on the side, they were sent to me a few days after getting no reply from the wife. They were obviously desperate for a response.

greathat · 10/01/2020 13:33

Police!

SayOohLaLa · 10/01/2020 13:39

OP my DH had an awful text on Boxing day, from the husband of a female friend. Just to disappoint the others posting, the police had no interest, despite it thratening to attack my husband at his place of work. They said to delete it and block the guy's number, they wouldn't even give him a crime number. I would be amazed if the police do anything with this text.

LeekMunchingSheepShagger · 10/01/2020 13:45

If the messages are about your 11 year old, chances are they’re from a “friend” of your 11 year old. I’d ask them what’s been going on at school lately.