A couple of years ago, my friend of thirty years ghosted me.
Just to give a potted history, we met at Uni. We have never been "Best friends" but have always got on well, met regularly and enjoyed each other's company. Our children played together (all DC are grown up now) and all was fine.
Out of the blue, my friend stopped contacting me. I was completely mystified as we had not fallen out or even had any cross words. Neither of us relied on each other for emotional support, so it wasn't a problem related to either of us being too needy.
I did try and ask what the problem might be. She basically said that I hadn't done anything wrong and she had some difficult stuff to deal with, but that this difficult stuff was nothing too terrible. She said that she couldn't talk about the problems she was having. As we don't share any mutual friends, I had noone to ask what could be wrong.
I tried to set up getting together but she dodged it. I also sent a birthday present which wasn't acknowledged.
The Christmas before last, I rang her and she said she would very much like to meet up. However, in practice it didn't happen as friend kept avoiding meeting. At this point, I gave up. I felt gutted that although she was saying she would like to see me, in reality she didn't. You can't force people to want you in their life. I was hurt and somewhat depressed about losing such a longstanding friend, but drew a line under it and moved on.
This Christmas (the same as last Christmas), I got a card from the friend with a message on "Hope we can meet in the new year". It was like having a wound that had healed ripped open again. I have ignored the card as I just think that she is going through the motions of d pretending that she hasn't ghosted me, when she actually has. I just think that this is rather cruel and dishonest.
Has anyone else had similar?