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No idea with what to do. Or think.

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 08/01/2020 18:40

Have booked a

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 08/01/2020 18:43

Sorry, problems with broadband
Have booked a lodge for everyone. Me, DH, Adult DS X2, Adult DD, 2 GC.

But,

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Pinkflipflop85 · 08/01/2020 18:45

Redefining the term 'drip feed' 😂

Drum2018 · 08/01/2020 18:48

Can we finish the story?

But...
The lodge is situated 5 hours away from one Ds so he is not happy having to drive that far with the gc. I think he should be fine - he can bring a portable potty and some junk food for the kids while they watch a DVD of peppa pig on repeat. AIBU?

chocolateisavegetable · 08/01/2020 20:13

cancel the cheque

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 08/01/2020 20:45

Sorry.

I have booked a lodge for the extended family as a final get celebration.
We have gotton together as a family every other year and thoroughly enjoyed it.
Next Easter has been booked. It should have been next Christmas, but I won't be here for that, so brought it forward to Easter.
Family have booked holidays from work, booked dogs into kennels, dS2 and partner are just waiting to snap up train tickets, but not to be melodramatic about it, I saw my consultant today and her idea of end of life is a bit different to mine!
A month ago I was told how bad things were, and to enjoy Christmas (nudge nudge wink wink).
Lots to blah blah about, but to cut to the chase, I booked a lodge. For Easter. Chances are, apparently, u won't be here then.

So, tell everyone to cancel requests and save their holidays, cancel the lodge and settle into die, or go ahead, utterly convinced that they are wrong and I will make it?

Please note: this is genuinely light hearted despite me imminently pegging out😜

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FlashingLights101 · 08/01/2020 20:50

Wow, op I'm really sorry. Have you told your family how imminent you think it might be, and would they be prepared to travel to stay somewhere near your home for a weekend sooner than Easter?

ClashCityRocker · 08/01/2020 20:50

Oh jesus. That wasn't the tale of petty frivolity I was anticipating.

Keep the booking, I think. It will be something to aim for and if the worst happens, maybe they could go in memory of you?

(I hope the tone of my post isn't off. Seriously, sorry you're going througb this.)

aibutohavethisusername · 08/01/2020 20:53

Oh bless you. I would keep the booking too. Maybe try and have a family meet up at yours soon. Sending you lots of love Flowers

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 08/01/2020 20:54

I am going for it.

If I make it, fab. (I feel like there is nothing wrong with me)!

If I don't make it, I will be dead and therefore immune to their complaints????

Veneering towards just going ahead and crossing fingers.
Bloody oncologists. What do they know?😆
H

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 08/01/2020 20:55

I am veering, not veneering.

Although there is an old table....

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RNBrie · 08/01/2020 20:56

Don't cancel. If you're still here then great. And if you're not they can take your ashes with them and toast you.

Good luck op, I can't being to imagine what you're going through. Sounds like you have a solid attitude though, I hope you make it to the holiday. Flowers

SpaghettiSharon · 08/01/2020 20:57

I’m so sorry you are facing this OP.

I would keep the booking but also warn everyone that you may not be there so they can alternative plans x

I hope you get there - sounds like it’ll be a very special time for all of you Flowers.

OldSpeclkledHen · 08/01/2020 20:57

No one knows... sieze the day and enjoy - this applies to every one of you

Ohyesiam · 08/01/2020 20:58

Keep the booking and have everyone over to yours soon.
In my experience as a nurse , the individual involved often knows a lot better than their consultant x

whiteroseredrose · 08/01/2020 20:59

Stick to your plans. Hopefully you'll all be there and enjoy your time together making memories (I know I know).

If the worst happens your loved ones can take time together.

Keeping fingers crossed for you.

NeverMindtheBotox · 08/01/2020 20:59

You're very cool OP, I want to be like you when I grow up.

Book it, make a point of making it. I'm sure no one will hold it against you.

GaaaaarlicBread · 08/01/2020 21:02

Wow I was not expecting that . I’m so sorry OP but you’re really dealing with it very well.
A family friend of ours was in your shoes
two years ago. Was told she had 4 weeks, had a lodge booked already with her family for her sons birthday and as a last holiday , but it was 4 months from when the Oncologist told her she was dying that month. She made it, and peacefully passed away the night they returned home. So go for it and enjoy every minute 💕🌷Not sure if you accept prayers but if you do I will pray for you and your strength x

MrsGrindah · 08/01/2020 21:04

Go for it OP. And I’m so sorry you have had such bad news but it sounds like you are the epitome of Chuck It In The Fuck It Bucket

StinkyWizleteets · 08/01/2020 21:11

OP I’m sorry to hear you’ve been given bad news but I’ve had relatives far exceed their consultants estimates of life expectancy. My grandfather by a year and my aunt by ten years. Plan for the future you want and if you’re unable to be there then ensure your family still go and enjoy the time celebrating you and your life.

Livebythecoast · 08/01/2020 21:12

My Mum was told she had 3 months - lasted 9 months. I hope you're a stubborn bugger like her and you get to go away with your family.
Can't imagine what you're going through but what a courageous lady you sound Flowers

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 08/01/2020 21:15

Decided. Iam paying the balance and going ahead.

DS1 gas fingers in ears nd thinks I will outlive them ll, so no blooody use.
Ds2 more sensible. Will use lodge as a wake if needed. Has just ask if I can sort out the booze before I kick the bucket.

GC have requested that I come back as a ghost ......... might be a bit harder...😁

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WanderingMilly · 08/01/2020 21:27

Oh wow.....sorry to hear your bad news but your attitude is fabulous. I'm another one saying go ahead, you may well be around and if not, not your problem. It will be good to have something to aim for, in my experience it keeps people going longer if they have an aim...

Bless you. And thank you for this post, your perspective has heartened me in a different dilemma and helped a lot. Yes, we have to live life while we have it.... Thinking of you.

FrangipaniBlue · 08/01/2020 21:44

Don't cancel. If you're still here then great. And if you're not they can take your ashes with them and toast you.

I was going to suggest this too Smile

OP I think you're a bit of a legend WineThanks

Icanflyhigh · 08/01/2020 21:53

Tooldtobearsed2 I think definitely keep the booking and makeover it's written somehwere that you absolutely expect every si glen person who has booked to be there, come what may.
Now hopefully, you will be there to hold court, entertain and enjoy, but should the worst happen, you know that your nearest and dearest have committed to spending some quality time together in your honour.

I wish all the very best for you and I sincerely hope your oncologist has made an error this time. You sound like a wonderful person with a devilish sense of humour x

SpaghettiSharon · 08/01/2020 22:38

Love that your family are taking your lead in the way you are all dealing with this - sorting the booze is exactly the kind of request I could imagine getting from my DS2 as well GrinGin.

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