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Kusiima · 08/01/2020 18:30

I don’t know where to start from but let me try to,, being of December my 3 year old fall sick, her nursery called me that your daughter isn’t feeling well, I was at work I told my manager that my daughter’s nursery has called me, my manager was good she told me just go home. I reached at my daughter’s nursery, my daughter was so shivering and had a very high temperature, I took her to my Gp and the doctor checked her she had ear infection, cut story short.....
I when back to work after three days off when my daughter was sick
My HR manager called me telling me how my attendance has so bad in the last six months, and I was like my daughter has been sick and i have evidence plus I have called in each day was I absent, this manager was like can you get someone to look and your daughter, i was trying to defend myself and he like why are you so defensive...I just lost it and I started sobbing like someone has died; I asked him what if what my daughter was admitted in the hospital, I would you expect me to get someone to look Or come to work, he was business is business , he didn’t answer...... I told him am single mother with three children,
He was business is business, the only option a company can offer you is to cut your hours;
I have worked for this company for years but the treat I got today i didn’t expect it; so mums what would you do???? Many thanks 😦

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pusspuss9 · 08/01/2020 18:38

What a tough situation for you.

Do you have any family near that could help? Even though you're a single mother, is the child's father or his side of the family anywhere around that could help you?

Kusiima · 08/01/2020 18:42

Pusspuss9 no I don’t have family members around me and I have only two friends and they work in the evenings, 😦

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CormoranStrike · 08/01/2020 18:43

You have my sympathy, but if I can say gently, your daughter was not in hospital so that argument doesn’t hold water, no wonder he didn’t answer that one.

And business IS business, shit as that is for you. And if your record has been bad in six months then this episode is not isolated.

However, bad as this made you feel, you will most likely be placed on an absence tracker for the next 12 months, rather than penalised in any other way. That’s what my company would do.

On a more practical level, nursery might not be the most flexible option for you, a child minder might offer more flexible care.

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Kusiima · 08/01/2020 19:22

CormoranStrike thanks dear; child minder would be good but no person would look after a sick child who vomits....

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 08/01/2020 19:25

How many days have you had off?

Mintjulia · 08/01/2020 19:36

Op, I’m a single mum and I chose a child minder who was based very close to my office.
This made it easier to be on time and to leave at the last moment. DC went to childminder unless d&v, and I used my holiday to cover those days. It was tough going for the first year, but then not bad.

How many other days have you missed?

chocolateisavegetable · 08/01/2020 19:39

Did you take it as unpaid dependant's leave?

Kusiima · 08/01/2020 19:45

Chocolatesavegetable@ I took it as unpaid

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m0therofdragons · 08/01/2020 19:48

How much time have you had off - own sickness and for children?

Kusiima · 08/01/2020 19:49

Mintjulia in the period of six months I have been absent just 8 days; and those 8 days I have covered in halftime.

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m0therofdragons · 08/01/2020 19:57

Sorry I'm not sure I know what you mean by "covered in half time" but 8 days is quite high imo. Was that all child sickness?

It's really hard but businesses need to be viable. How old are dc? When my boss asked me to go for the full time management I pointed out that I have 3 dc so needed to have flexibility re covering sickness. Luckily I've had one day in the last 12 months. The previous year all 3 got chicken pox.

Kusiima · 08/01/2020 20:18

@ motherofdragons
I personally I haven’t taken any day off, just because of children

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Kusiima · 08/01/2020 20:29

@motnerofdragons
They’re 10,9 and 3 year old, covered in halftime ( I covered the days I was off in halftime) 8 days in the period of six month; not that I took 8 days at once no no, three days at once when she was vomiting and high temperature

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 08/01/2020 20:42

8 days over 6 months would be seen as a lot by many workplaces

CormoranStrike · 08/01/2020 23:57

Sorry you found my post patronising. I was trying to offer a solution.

Eight days off in six months - how many separate absences were these? Three episodes st my business and you hit tracker status.

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