Surviving teens!

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Any parents who have survived the teen years want to impart any hindsight, knowledge and turnaround tales?

I just feel at the end of my tether with DD 14, (young year 10). She is lazy, entitled, rude, lies to me.

Every time I try to parent - removing privileges, withholding money. It doesn’t seem to make a massive behaviour and just feel like living in a war zone for the rest of us.

Please tell me it gets better?

Any blogs, books that helped.

I feel like just giving up and let her just go and make her own mistakes and try not to get emotionally detached as getting involved is too much.

Please tell me there is light at the end of the tunnel!

Sorry OP I feel your pain. Mine is 18 and his laziness drives me batty.

My daughter is 14 and in Y10. She's great - other than a bit moody around her period. Right now she's been up since 5.30 studying for her exams!
My son (16) however - phew! It might be all to come with my dsughter but he has been a challenge. His dad died when he was six and by and large he is a charming young man but we've had issues with drinking and such. A bit of mischief (such as trespassing on a closed holiday compound and climbing scaffolding). Totally not motivated academically but he is sport mad and happy to get up early Sundays come rain or shine for rugby and even goes to the gym before school on occasion so can be foccussed.
My only advice is to be there and let them cope with stuff. Driving my son to various sporting activities often led to us having a good chat about things- he didn't have to look at me! And I've watched countless TV footie matches which I have no interest in but he does and it meant time spent together.
His issues have been mainly school based though. I thought he was going for a record with the amount of detentions! But nothing malicious or mean - mainly tardiness and gobbiness. He was suspended once. But he's very likeable and I think the teachers gave hime the benefit of the doubt. But he tanked his GCSEs and though he didn't want to stay on for sixth form (hes doing vocational training at a college which he likes) he really misses school - he always considered it a social club!
He can get violent and once they are bigger than you that can be a worry. He's broken a couple things around the house and a few holes in walls. I wish I has my husband around at those times for sure. I just ride it out though confess to alot of shouting too which does absolutely no good whatsoever.
But they come out the other side. As long as they don't go spiralling into drug use you just have to hang in there. Its there life and if they do things (like fail exams) they are the ones that have to deal with the consequences. You can't lead their life for them.

Pip thank you!

I just can’t see the wood for the trees and sweat the small stuff constantly