I’ve wasted years of my life but I don’t know how to change things - any advice?

[Glenntal]

I just feel completely stuck.

Sorry to hear you feel like that op

I have had friends who’ve said similar. What is making you feel like that in particular?

I just feel the years are passing me by. I know changes are possible but actually doing them feels impossible. They are actually practical things I can do btw, not pipe dreams.

I had a lovely friend in a similar position possibly. She didn’t like her job but was scared to change, wants a partner but was scared to try OLD and lived somewhere she wasn’t likely to meet people. Making change can be very hard.

Can you say what you would like to achieve:

New job?
New interests?

Etc and we can chip in with some practical ideas?

Change is definitely possible - I’m sure you can do it with determination

Thanks for replying Once

Yes to a new job. I think I need some experience in a different area, it’s easily got but pushing myself to do it is difficult.

Post your dreams here, and let us cheer you on.

Also, are you someone who does things when other people want you to/are relying on you? Or someone who can do them for themselves? I'm the former so I'm only motivated to change when it helps other people - or when my NOT changing would impact people. It took me years of unfulfilled potential to realise that!

I hear you op! I’m not doing very well at my 2020 list.. feeling rather shitty about it!

I hear you, OP. You're not alone in feeling that way.

Anuvva I’m more only do this something when I absolutely have to - I really need deadlines.

Thank you everyone for replying, I was feeling really low last night so thank you.

Tell us more op! Can you st yourself some deadlines eg by x date I will have spoken to x number of recruiters?