Am I being impolite?

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We have some Friends over from a European country.
They are staying at my brothers in laws holiday let about ten minutes away from us. For the last 3 days we have entertained them for at least 12 hours each day. Today we picked them up at 10 am. Took them out for lunch and dinner brought them home for a quick coffee but they are still here hours later. I have just announced that I’m going to bed as I’m shattered. They seemed really offended. Should I have just waited for them to decide to go? My DP is quite happy to stay up with them.
I can’t sleep now as I feel I’ve probably offended them and I have another two days to spend with them.
Oh dear.
What do you all think?

Absolutely not rude! Did you offer to completely host them with the holiday let for sleeping only and all other time to be with you, as in 'we'll only spend sleep apart'?!

Are they perhaps waiting for someone to drive them home? I don't think you are being rude. I have taken myself to bed when guests have overstayed.

How did they behave to make you think they were offended?

Goodness you should have just shown them around first day then leave them to their own devices and see them for dinner only.

No, they are. Unless I knew someone well enough they'd be comfortable telling me to piss off, I'd either discreetly find out what the host would prefer or err on the side of caution.

If u have been with them constant for the last few days and it is just yourself that has went to bed then no .. I don't really think u r being impolite , I wld have prob lied I had a headache etc x don't fret about it it's done now just say to them tomorrow apologies for nipping off to bed I was feeling a bit off

Every other night they phoned for a taxi, but not until the early hours.

They wished me a very frosty good night, very straight faced.

I started clearing dishes etc at about 10.15, and yawned a lot but they didn’t seem to notice. They both have developed streaming colds and hacking coughs during the course of today too. I would have thought they would have been glad to go back to their accommodation. It’s a beautiful holiday let too, 4*.
They haven’t even eaten breakfast there once yet.

They are good company but I’m just finding it all a bit intense.

They are still all hooting with laughter, coughing and sneezing too.

I’m going to be a wreck tomorrow.

No, you are not being impolite - visitors should not be staying as late as 11pm, they are taking the pss.

Oh dear 🙈🙈 aww I wld be annoyed it's enough to put u off ppl when ur constantly with them. Listen they clearly have no regard for you so I wouldn't feel bad whatsoever if they had better manners they wld be in a taxi , some foreign ppl are more ignorant than us and they have a dam cheek on them to b stern faced . I'd b exhausted too xx

Maybe they aren't offended and just appear that they are!

I think its fine to go to bed when you did, you sound like you're a very good host. See how they are with you tomorrow but hopefully you are reading too much info it

Is it possible they were just embarrassed to realise they had so overstayed their welcome, rather than annoyed?

I see the love child of Nigel Farage and netmums has arrived.

“some foreign ppl are more ignorant than us”

Wow, really?

Some people can't take a hint. You haven't been rude at all. Especially on a week night.

@waitaminute0812 strange that as I haven't seen many "foreign people" account for not knowing the local language by shouting louder in their own. I have however seen this feat accomplished by many brits abroad.

Waitaminute0812. Could you explain what you mean about foreigners

X x lol

@waitaminute0812 What on earth are you on about?
Can you elaborate on your 'foreign people' comment?

Sickening ignorance.

They are rude for not fitting in with your timings and your household. So what if they expected more alcohol, a party until dawn, or a luxury limousine laid on? The CFs should know when to leave, smile and say thank you to their host. You don't just sulk and put on a frosty face! I would be unavailable to meet up for the rest of their stay.

Perfectly fine for you to go to bed. Seems odd they would be offended, you are being generous hosts.

It’s their bad manners not yours.

I don’t think there’s anything rude about going to bed at 11pm.

It’s quite a late bedtime for most people surely, especially if you’ve had a busy day.

You haven't been rude. They may not have been offended, perhaps a bit embarrassed but that's all.

They can't expect you to entertain them all the time and you've done more than your bit.

you don't honestly think or wonder if you are being rude, do you.
you want us to reassure you that you have been the perfect host, and may now be excused to bed, without anyone justifiable saying that you have failed in some way.
you know the saying, if you act like a doormat, people will walk all over you. why are you abasing yourselves so much in relation to them.
ok, they're friends, so be friendly, meet, share a meal, go visit. but you don't have to wait on them hand and foot. they are not royalty.
the error was asking them back chez vous for coffee. why cant they ask you in to the place they are staying. aren't they self-catering.
your DP should not encourage indulge them to this extent.
he should have your back, and support you in stage directions to get them out of your house now. enough is enough.
leave them to their own devices, until just before they depart, maybe a meal out the day before, or better, on the day if there is time.
I hope you/ dp are not paying for all these meals.
please stand up for yourself, if you give an inch, some people take a mile. guard your inches carefully.
I am prob much older than you; I know whereof I speak....
this is the advice I would give my younger self. don't let other people set your agenda, don't be passive. take control. doesn't mean being horrid, just clear, and calm, and state your needs preferences, limits.