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Child struggling to write

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Equimum · 06/01/2020 11:43

Has anyone else’s child really struggled with learning to write, and if so, what has helped?

DS is 7 and in year 2. Overall he is bright and has had no trouble learning to read. He is reading chapter books and has good comprehension.

Writing, though, had proven far more difficult. It was flagged when he started school that he was struggling to hold his pencil. We increased fine motor skill activities, but it didn’t seem to make much difference. We have also encouraged lots of gross motor skill activities, and while he runs, balances and kicks balls okay, he struggles to catch and do things that involve a lot of co-ordination, like swimming and bike riding (although he has mastered the latter now).

His writing, though, continues to be problematic. He still struggles to control his pencil and his writing is very uneven. He also still reverses quite a few letters. This is now becoming more problematic as he can’t write at the speed expected in school, and he is becoming more reluctant to try. His teachers now feel he isn’t focusing and that he is needing extra support to get on with his work, which we think stems from his trouble writing. His teachers agree that he may have mild dyspraxia but are unable to offer any support for that and suggested we look into strategies to help him.

He has those rubber pen grip things, and we have tried to do some handwriting practice at home. School say there is nothing else they can do, and he needs to learn to focus and stay motivated. Has anyone found anything else to be helpful with a similar problem?

TIA

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Equimum · 07/01/2020 13:30

Thanks again Kit30. This is all really new to me, so it’s great to see what I need to be looking at.

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haba · 07/01/2020 14:35

Sorry to hijack your thread Equimum, but can anyone recommend an OT in West Midlands at all? DS really struggles with writing, and not through lack of effort or perseverance. Now Y6, but looks like Y2, though content is good. TIA

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haba · 07/01/2020 14:36

And I recognise the swimming thing @Equimum! Drumming lessons have helped co-ordination of his limbs for us.

minipie · 07/01/2020 16:00

hi Equimum yes I was Dec 12! Although DD had other ideas and turned up in October leading to some interesting times... Grin

dorothysredshoes · 07/01/2020 16:11

Try a private OT appointment to get further info. Can't hurt if you can afford it. There are lots of handwriting programmes etc that OTs use alongside specific exercises.

UnicornPug · 07/01/2020 17:06

I have a bright boy who doesn’t write. For my son, the issues are twofold. Firstly, he has massive sensory issues with paper. He hates the stuff and being forced to use pencil on paper was like nails on a blackboard to him. Secondly, he has severely hyper mobile hands. What that kid can do with his thumbs is quite incredible...
I have been fighting for support for him since he was in Reception, but it’s only since I finally managed to get an OT to see him that we’ve made progress. The issue we had was that, as he is bright, he simply wasn’t failing enough. His y2 teacher and I planned for him to fail his SATs so he’d be better supported in Y3 and he scraped a pass by a couple of marks. We referred him to OT as often as allowed and kept getting bounced back. It wasn’t until I had yet another rejection phone call and I full on cried down the phone (not my finest hour!) that they agreed to see him.
Once he was seen, it was quite simple. The hypermobility in his hands is so severe that he’ll never be able to write neatly. Only functionally. School were told no unnecessary writing (it causes him pain, something nobody, including me, had realised. He hadn’t complained as he thought it normal) and get him typing. He also wears a splint during things he has to write and uses pen exclusively, even in maths, as it’s more comfortable.
He’s still on the waiting lists for various assessments and diagnoses but there’s no argument about how and what he writes.
So my advice is to get him seen by OT. It’s better if school are onside, but not impossible if they aren’t! Just keep pushing and try to self refer if you can. Don’t give up- this is a long road and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sobbed ‘my child can’t write and nobody thinks it’s important’ to various professionals. Good luck!

Kit30 · 07/01/2020 18:50

Drumming has helped mine too, Unicorn Pug ! Coordination, strength and just bashing out the frustrations!
It seems that dyspraxia awareness amongst teachers hasn't moved on in the decade I've been dealing with it for my own DC.
Teachers don't seem to have the info/knowledge to be able to join the dots between diffuse symptoms, so children (predominantly boys) go undiagnosed. As you say, a child who isn't failing badly enough gets little or no attention and all too often is criticised instead.
The frustration you describe is sadly all too familiar.

haba · 07/01/2020 19:08

Thank you @Kit30!

DinosApple · 07/01/2020 19:30

My now 10yo was the same, she really struggled with spelling too which was at complete odds with her really good higher reading age. School said they couldn't get her assessed due to lack of funds, so eventually we paid to get her assessed by an educational psychologist.

Turns out she has dyslexia and dyspraxia.

It was well worth the money as we now know what we are dealing with, but it does make you wonder how many children slip under the radar due to lack of funds.

MiniMum97 · 07/01/2020 19:57

My DS (who has ASC and ADHD) always struggled with writing and complained of pain in his hand and back when trying to write. He was always very bright but his writing was pretty much non existent and illegible. Primary school were useless in supporting him or with any diagnosis but thankfully his secondary school were fantastic and gave lots of support, one of which was to just let him type everything including class notes. He still does to this day and it has never held him back, quite the opposite.

We've just found out though (he's now in his twenties) that he has hypermobility which we've been told can make it very difficult to hold a pen - you have grip it too tightly so you don't drop it and this could have caused the pain he described. Another thing you could possibly explore.

Kit30 · 07/01/2020 21:43

Can I bc also recommend Dragon Dictate? it's voice recognition software that is designed primarily for office use (I use it for work) but also works for academic use. You do need to 'train' it to recognise your voice but it would benefit eg teens for longer writing projects. It's much faster than inbuilt apps (eg Apple) and the type appears almost as quickly as you dictate. From memory the package is about £120.

https://shop.nuance.co.uk/store/nuanceeu/enGB/Content/pbPage.home?currency=GBP&pgmid=95401100&utmm_source=google&utmmedium=cpc&utmmcampaign=DBU+/+DPI+/+Dragon+/+Dictation+/+Product+/+UK+-+EN+/+None+/+Exact+/+Mobile&keyword=dragon+dictate-e&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI993rubry5gIVmK3tCh2o6Q1SEAAYASAAEgKfLfDBwE

Kit30 · 07/01/2020 21:51

I installed Dragon Dictate on my pc a while ago but there's a new version for mobile phones which has some great reviews

1DoesNotSimplyWalkIntoMordor · 08/01/2020 08:45

he cannot do monkey bars etc due to dislocating elbows
Definitely sounds like an issue with hypermobile joints, push for an OT referral ( they can refer to other services) and try to find out how long their current waiting list is, if it's long and you can afford to it may benefit you to go private.

Good luck.

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