How often do you go out if you have kids / don't have kids?

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DH and I are 40s with two kids ages 10+. We go out prob two or three times a month together for dinner / cinema / theatre or with friends. We also go out alone to see friends as well. DH thinks we hardly go out though!!

Friends same age, no kids go out once a month together and that's it. The don't do any other activity together.

Once a year if we can get mil to have the kids. It's rubbish! Nobody is interested in babysitting for us!

I see friends alone maybe once or twice a month. Me and dh have an evening alone once everything 3 months sometimes less. You are fortunate to go out so much. We only have 1 ds. Dh works long hours and we dont realise have anyone to babysit

We have 2 DC. MIL has them to stay once a fortnight, so we usually go out together one of those nights and have a quiet night in the other. DH goes out with friends maybe once a week/every 10 days, even of its just a quick pint after work. I go out with my friends maybe once a month.

Most of my friends have DC or work shifts so the issue with my personal social life is more about coordinating schedules, therefore I go out less.

When we first had DC i made myself a martyr and wouldn't go out and socialise because I HAD to be home for the children. I didn't. MIL offered repeatedly to have them and I refused. I became depressed and isolated from my friends and my husband. Now for my own mental health I gleefully hand them over because they LOVE their sleepover at nannies and look forward to it and I enjoy being me, rather than mum, for an evening.

We are very lucky to have childcare handed to us on a plate when so many people don't have any.

Go out maybe once every 3/4 months. Can't manage a hangover and kids. I would say you're fortunate to be able to go out that much. Are your kids older?

Have a 2.5yr old DD. Only night out since having her was a friends evening wedding reception which was conveniently held 5mins from my parent's house. Have had a few days out in town with friends but always home in time to bath her and put her to bed. Aware this is unusual, but its just the way we have done things. We kind of fell into attachment parenting.
Prior to having DD I would probably go out for the evening with friends monthly, and maybe a lunch or local meal once a week with friends too.

Together, without kids, about once every 5 years. Separately, about 4 times a year.

Very rare for us to go out since we had DC. Never really together as we have no childcare.
Went out all the time when we were child free. Every other day we would meet up with friends or go to the cinema, etc.

We have 1DD aged 5. We hardly ever go out together. Maybe twice a year? But to be honest, we’re the type to stay in given the opportunity.

I have been thinking about this recently, that it would be nice to spend some time alone. Baby arriving in July though.... it’s unlikely to improve!

I go out once or twice a month with friends and DH and I try and have a meal out once a month either just us 2 or with friends. DH pops to the pub most weeks just for a couple of hours.

We go out to eat about once a month (lunch normally), this was before kids. We now have a baby and its the same.
We live rurally and not interested in cinema. We do love the theatre but have to travel for it so its rare.

I see friends for lunch weekly ad pre-baby saw ballet with my mum. But won’t be going out in the evening for a year or so, and probably never with DH as have no babysitter options yet

Always went out a couple of times a month together when we had dcs. No family so used a babysitter.
Also went out on our own.
Dh and I go out lots now....eat out twice a week and go for drinks

Early 30’s, 1 under 3.
We go out together 2 times a month as have regular babysitting booked in every 2 weeks
Sometimes it’s once a week if we have busy calendar

Teenage DCs. Go out together, without them, about 3 or 4x a year (meal, friends, cinema etc). I go out separately in the evening with friends about once a month. However we also both go to clubs/classes a couple of nights a week and take the DCs to various sport activities, we are both also on sports club committees with meetings to go to so we are out of the house in the evenings a lot.

2 DC under 10 here. DH and I go out together about 4 times a year. No family to babysit so we've spent £40 before we even step out of the house which is off putting. I go out with girlfriends about twice a month and DH with his about the same. Feels plenty for me at the moment and I know we'll do more when the kids are older so it's fine.

seriouslystressed Our kids are 10 and 12 and we have a range of babysitters (paid) that we can ask to mind them.

I honestly can’t see my daughter (5) coping with a paid baby sitter. Am I being precious? I have never even contemplated it!

Mid 30s, no kids. At least once every 2 weeks together and the same separately. I have a more active social life than DP and try to balance my time equally with him.

1 child, once a week and family babysit.

We had a 1 year old and the last time we went out on a date situation was 28th dec 2018. Lol

No kids, and I'm not sure. Depends what you'd call going out, I guess?

We're very seldom out for the whole evening together, because we like being home. Cinema maybe once a year, because there's hardly ever anything I want to go see, and out for a bigger dinner at a restaurant once or twice a year, I'd guess. We have coffee/lunch out together about once a week, maybe, and go out for walks and various activities, though. DH goes out with his friends only a few times a year (most of them have families and none are that keen on regular pub nights, I guess). I tend to see my friends for lunch/coffee/cinema or just a catch up during daytime, usually once a month, or maybe a bit more often.

It's more about being homebodies than a lack of opportunity or money for us. Also arranging time with friends is not as easy as it could be, with people working, having families, being ill or carers etc.

No kids at home. DH is out every evening for a drink with his friends, at weekends he’s in the pub for both lunchtime and evening sessions.
I go out maybe once a month for either dinner with friends/drinks with colleagues/afternoon doing something with my mum, and have a drink or meal with DH about 2 or 3 times a year. We also go round for a meal at DSD’s a couple of times a year.
We have a couple of weekends staying with my parents most years, but haven’t had a holiday in ages. I feel we do lots, DH is the one who says we need to get out more!

@peanutlover we used staff from their daycare when they were little so it was someone they knew. Now it's my niece and her friends. My kids are pretty sociable and used to lots of people.

3 or 4 times a month together I'd say and a few times separately. We've had au pairs for about 2 years now, which helps, but before that we relied on parents, both sets of whom live nearby, and sometimes a babysitting circle. I'd say we were lucky but it was very much by design we've stayed near family... either way it us fortunate to have family willing to help.

@MrsElf don't you mind him going to the pub that much?!