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Nagita · 05/01/2020 02:06

My partners mum and I have always had a really good relationship for the past 2 years we have been together. She turned on me recently like VERY suddenly and got physical with me over a stupid little thing (her continously putting 7 year out of date sudocream on my sons bum after both of us telling her not too, stupid, right??) and long story short got angry and started screaming at me, then she came for me, pushing me over and punching me in the face whilst I was trying to protect my baby. It was just shocking. I've never been in a fight before and I am by no means violent person. She tried to grab my baby from me in a total fit of rage, it all happened very fast and I'm very shaken up by it. I hate her. My partner figured out what was going on and had to literally pick her up and throw her in another room. Has anyone else had a weird outburst like this with their partners mums? Wtf did you do after. Could you trust them again around your child? I don't think I can. Ever. At this point I have blocked her on everything and threatened her with a restraining order as I cannot trust her around myself or my son ever again. My partners is as shocked as I am and feels somewhat embarrassed and ashamed of her actions. I've heard about her losing it with people before but I never thought she would turn on me as we haven't had issues. I can't get over the fact that she kept going when I was holding my child. Im heartbroken for him. How in the hell can anyone think that's acceptable. The rage I feel toward her is unbelievable. In terms of family I'm a bit worried about my sons connection to them now as she was the link. I can't bare the thought of even being in the same room as her at family events ect but don't want him to be excluded for her actions, and I don't feel comfortable my son being at them without me incase she tries to talk to him or pick him up. What is the answer do I resolve this for my sons sake on my STRICT terms or blank her forever, I don't think she is capable of changing and I don't think she can control her temper which makes me think it's best to just forget she even exists and tell her to stay the f away from me and my boy, I can't help but think that is quite selfish of me.

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Cauliflowerpower · 05/01/2020 02:21

Crikey well that would be it for me! Shed not be seeing me or the baby again..... has she apologised, tried to explain???

OddshoesOddsocks · 05/01/2020 02:26

I think that would be it for me too. Zero contact between me and her and probably between her and the baby too. She’d certainly never ever be unsupervised around him. What does your partner say about going forward? You really need to be on the same page on this one

Icanflyhigh · 05/01/2020 02:48

That would be me done forever. No excuses, no justification.
No contact from here onwards, and no can blame you for that.
How does DP feel about it all? Is he still willing to have contact or will he support you with no contact?

Bunbunbunny · 05/01/2020 02:57

She'd be nowhere near me or my child, if she can switch on you like that she can do that to your child

elmosducks · 05/01/2020 03:04

Whaaaaaat????

I am sorry but anyone attacking a mother holding her baby isn't right in the head.
I mean, anyone attacking anyone, but a MIL attacking DIL who is holding DGC is a whole new level.

It would be a very strict NC for me, and for DC.

I hope that you are all ok. Thanks

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 05/01/2020 03:15

This is awful. I have zero tolerance for violence and would go NC. I would not trust her around your DC she clearly has no self control and could of even hurt your son. I know this puts your partner in a difficult position however this was no small incident. Nothing stops your partner from seeing his family if this is what he wants but I wouldn’t let DC go.

Mulhollandmagoo · 05/01/2020 03:40

Yeah, strictly NC! Both you and your son!! It's not selfish, it's protecting your son

Nagita · 05/01/2020 13:54

I was hoping everyone would say NC! I want strictly no contact. I've told her I wouldn't even bring my son to see her in her death bed and I hope this gets across just how much she isn't welcome in our lives. I have received absolutley no apology, not even through my partner. She hasn't even apologised to him for her actions. Its actually unbelievable!! I have blocked her on Facebook and blocked her number and at this point she can ram the apology it won't make any difference to me what she says.
My partner is upset by it all but he is on my side ofcourse, he's feels bad for her but totally understands I need to do what's best for myself and my son. We've spoke about it and I hope to the high heavens this never comes between us as he is a good man and has had to endure this treatment his whole life. My rule is she isn't allowed near us. If my partner wishes to continue his relationship with her that's up to him and I'll respect his wishes but i don't even want to hear her name uttered in my house. I'm just getting more angry and upset over the whole thing I still can't believe she was going for me when I had my baby in my arms it's the absolute worst. Thanks everyone for the advice 😊

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