When did you decide to have children?

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I've been with DP for a couple of years now. We're not quite ready to bring a new life into this world but we're excited when the time comes.

I've just been wondering when do people decide? How did the conversation go?

I think I told DH that I could see us having children probably about 1-1.5 years into the relationship. However, before we actually started trying, we moved in together, got married, moved to a bigger house etc so we were all set up.

I've been with my fiancé since I was 16, I'm 20 now and I'm pregnant with our first child. We started trying once we had our own place, financially stable etc. We'd been together 3.5 years once we started which was perfect timing for us

We had a pregnancy scare the year before we started trying so that's what prompted the convo (I wasn't pregnant) and we both kinda said we'd be happy if I was! So we went traveling round south east Asia for abit and then started trying once we were back

It took us 12 years to decide to start trying. We went back and forwards on it because being child-free ('selfish' as some would have it) is extremely fun.

They sort of just happened never was good at maths, and I got pregnant rather easily

We agreed that we wouldn't make any decisions before we were 30, and started TTC at 32. We'd been together 10 years when ds was born

I don't remember tbh. We decided to start trying at 28 - just seemed like the right time.

We've been together since I was 18 and we got married at 22, he knew I wanted to have a child by 25, he has never been particularly fussed either way, so was always 'if it happens'. We bought our house just after my 24th and stopped actively preventing pregnancy, 3 years later and not ever a scare I went to see my Dr, she sent me away for tests, this was followed by 2 miscarriages. We finally welcomed our ds last July, just before my 29th birthday. I've never known a man to be so smitten.

DH and I got married at 27 and knew we wanted children at some undefined point in the future. Six months after the wedding, my Dad died completely unexpectedly. I'd never been especially maternal before, children were something that would happen 'one day', I wasn't in a rush. But the way my dad died changed something in me, and I just HAD to have a baby. It's hard to explain. So six months after losing my dad, after I had dealt with all of his affairs and sold his house, we started trying and were lucky enough to fall pregnant on the first attempt.

We both agreed that we wanted to be married for a couple of years, own our own house and both established in our jobs.

It will be two years in the same company for me next month and they do great maternity benefits, so we are going to TTC imminently