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Hand foot and mouth and soft play

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Booboostwo · 04/01/2020 09:17

DD has what may be HF and M. She has two blisters on her foot and possible two other blisters coming out on her hand.

DS has had H F and M before but i think there are many viruses responsible for this so he could get it again but currently has no symptoms.

DS is invited to a party as a soft play this afternoon. The party was cancelled the first time because the birthday boy was sick then the second date was changed because no one could attend so I know the birthday boy’s mum is keen for everything to work out for today. Should I take DS or is it too much of a risk?

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RhymingRabbit3 · 04/01/2020 09:19

I wouldnt

Littlebelina · 04/01/2020 09:23

I would if he has no symptoms and you can leave dd at home with someone. You can't quarantine someone because he might get I'll, esp if he is showing no signs. If it was school\work you'd send him in.

Littlebelina · 04/01/2020 09:23

ill not I'll (stupid autocorrect)

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PotteringAlong · 04/01/2020 09:26

He’s not ill, why wouldn’t you take him? And isn’t the advice not to exclude for Hand foot and mouth anyway?

Hellbentwellwent · 04/01/2020 09:42

Maybe ask the mother of the birthday boy to send a message around and ask if anyone has any objections? I caught hand foot and mouth at the same time as my twins when they were only 1, it was utterly horrific, a friend didn’t think it was worth mentioning that her kid had it and had invited us round for a play date. I was furious. I slept (didn’t fucking sleep at all) for three nights downstairs on the sofa with any feet in a basin of iced water on the floor and two basins either side of me on the sofa while my husband tried to deal with the twins. Doctors said it was the worst case of hfm he’d ever seen, I lost all the top skin from the sole of my feet and my hands. Don’t underestimate how back it can be for some

whataballbag · 04/01/2020 10:01

I'd be incredibly pissed off if I went to a party and there was a child with HFM there.

PotteringAlong · 04/01/2020 10:23

But the child going to the party doesn’t have HFM, it’s his sister.

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Booboostwo · 04/01/2020 11:11

Hellbetwellwent Ex had a tough time with HFM as an adult as well so I understand.

whataballbag DS has no symptoms and DD might not even have HFM. I texted some photos to their pediatrician (who is a friend) and she says it’s too soon to tell either way.

I have texted the party mum and let her decide. I don’t have contact details for the other parents.

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NeverGotMyPuppy · 04/01/2020 12:22

Childcare providers will still take a child who had H,F and M as long as they are well in themselves so on that basis I would definitely allow the sibling of a child who might have it to go! Just dont mention it.

MiddleClassProblem · 04/01/2020 12:25

Would DD have to go too? If not the I see no reason he can’t go...

Caterina99 · 04/01/2020 12:26

My DD has HFM recently and my DS did not catch it (he had it previously). I know it’s possible to get it more than once, but your DS has no symptoms and has had it before so Yes I would take him if I could leave DD behind

Ciwirocks · 04/01/2020 12:27

I would definitely take the well child, you can’t stop kids going places in case they might be coming down with something, they would never go anywhere!

PleaseGiveMeAShake · 04/01/2020 12:28

If dd is staying at home and it's just ds going then I would take him.
If you had to take a possibly sick dd with you then I would cancel.

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Booboostwo · 04/01/2020 12:28

No DD won’t go.

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ofwarren · 04/01/2020 12:33

My immune suppressed son caught HFM from soft play and was hospitalised. I know that’s worse case but I personally wouldn’t take the risk.

welshweasel · 04/01/2020 12:56

Nurseries and schools don’t exclude for proven HFM so to avoid a party with a currently well child who may have been exposed to it is bonkers! Yes take him

sparepartalways · 04/01/2020 13:00

Tbh it’s ridiculous that schools etc don’t exclude for it and the reason they don’t especially in the case of schools is that it spreads so easy they would have lots of kids off for a few days so they say it’s ok to send them back to keep attendance levels up and then they just have a school full of unwell kids

Hfm is a horrible illness. I had my 1 y o hospitalised as he had some kind of rare complication and my other dc were very unwell and off 7-10 days the school kept calling saying we had to send them back !

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