Ds is 8 and has been sleeping in my bed since a bad break up last year (he saw me being hit) he has massive anxiety being on his own incase something happens to me and we have tried to get him back in his own bed, but ultimately not very hard and he just sleeps in with me.
He has reached peak end of Christmas holidays and was a bit stir crazy at bedtime. I asked him to put down his iPad and he sort of threw it across the sofa which hit me - though this was not his intention. We were both shocked and I shouted at him and marched him into his own bedroom and said boys who hurt their mums don’t get to sleep in their beds (I’m paraphrasing - it sounds weird written down)
I went back in after about 15 mins of him shouting through that he was sorry and crying and said that his behaviour was not okay, that he had upset me and I was shocked that he would hurt me. He was very upset and said he was sorry and he loved me. I put his night light on and tucked him in, and am now sitting in my room listening to him crying.
What do I do? Do I bring him into my bed? I don’t feel I can back down but the bed situation is so full of anxiety and back history that I don’t want to drag it into him being naughty. He’s usually really well behaved and is obviously mortified by what he did - I don’t know what to do and I’m sat here feeling horrendous, as is he. I know I’ve not handled it well, but it happened so quickly and I just reacted.
Help?