Hi, I'm posting this on behalf of a friend. She has a son in the final year of primary school who is being bullied by a child in his class. This child is considerably larger than him, and three of the incidents at school have involved him strangling friends DS. A 4th incident of strangling happened the day after school finished for Christmas at a kids party so strictly speaking outside of school. It also involved strangling him until he was dizzy and losing colour.
This has obviously distressed both son and mum considerably but they have stayed calm and want to deal with it properly through the school.
DF doesn't want her DS to be in the same class as the bully, and is willing to remove her son to ensure his safety. The issue is that each time it's been raised (particularly the three strangling incidents) she is told that this child has ADHD and allowances must be made, they are dealing with it etc. Only clearly they aren't as it keeps happening!
No one wants to make life harder for any other mums, but equally feel as if a duty of care is not being extended to the NT child in this situation.
Does anyone have any advice or resources that could help formulate a fair but firm case to put to the head? The DS doesn't want to move classes and we don't think he should have to as the victim.
My view is that the ADHD actually has nothing to do with the situation just muddies the waters, and it should be dealt with the same as any other bullying situation. The strangling aspect is incredibly worrying, any escalation from this level of violence doesn't bare thinking about.
Any pointers ,references or links would be much appreciated 🙂