Talk me down, irrationally annoyed at DH

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Let me start by saying we have a 6 week old with reflux and sleep is in short supply.

I got a new car on Monday and crashed into a lamp post. I've made my peace with it and I'll be having it repaired hopefully next week.

This morning our next door neighbour came knocking as his car has been damaged and has left white paint. My new car is white. I was in bed with DS sleeping on me as that's often the only place he's comfy. DH put his shoes on went outside and had a "lively discussion" about how I hadn't caused the damage.

I'm unreasonably angry that he didn't come back upstairs and take the baby so I could protest my own innocence. I have pictures on my phone of the damage on my car long before his was damaged. Plus I was the one driving the damned car. DH can't drive. I'm annoyed that he spoke for me, I don't think he should have. DH says to go round and discuss it with him now but I think that's just making a bigger deal out of it than needs be.

Talk me down from my sleep deprived rage before I have to bury him under the patio.

He would bvu waking you up so your neighbour could have a go.

I'm confused why you are angry with him? Are you normally so unreasonable?

I think your DH was in a no win situation here.

You should be thanking him... what a strange reaction!

In a nice way Yabu

Sleep deprivation sends me loopy sometimes so I'm sure dh will let you off

You’re sleep deprived, which is hellish. Your DH was being thoughtful

You’re sleep deprived so everything is blown out of proportion. I literally wanted to murder my DH when DS was a newborn, I hated him so much at times for no real reason. Sleep deprivation caused by a newborn is just different to any other, it really is.

He probably thought he was doing you a favour, you didn’t need any hassle like that when you have enough going on.

If you are feeling like a baby making machine (which I completely get) you need to get out of the house without the baby. Go for a walk around the block or get a coffee, baby free every day. Even if its only for 30 mins. Breath the fresh air, stand up tall and stretch your back (I guarantee you are walking around hunched over all the time right now) and prioritise your mental health.

Also dont drive if you are completely exhausted, its v dangerous

Ah Mumsnet yes @Sadiesnakes I am always so unreasonable because I am always accompanied by a 6 week old baby who is on sleep strike.

I have calmed down and thanks to the newfound wonders of my baby box baby wrap I have managed to get round a supermarket and actually choose my shopping because DS likes the wrap. He's a little cling-on.

Thank you for the sympathetic ears, I know I was being irrational @MsChatterbox I think you've hit the nail on the head, I feel like all I've done for weeks is change nappies and feed and clean up sick and change baby and me and everything else anywhere near me. I could have told my idiot neighbour he was an idiot! I have the capacity for that!

It will get better. At some point baby will start sleeping. At some point he will be older and happy to be comforted by dad. And at that point you can leave the house without him, walk around a shop slowly and pointlessly or get a haircut. And you will slowly start to feel like there is more to you again. Just keep going!