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Can abusive ex's new partner see my medical records?

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Fuzzybum · 03/01/2020 07:24

Abusive ex has just declared that he is in a relationship. No issue there, hopefully he will p*$$ off and leave me alone.
The new woman is a nurse.
Ex is very manipulative and controlling, still playing mind games with me, still trying to get under my skin. I cant go NC with him due to the very young DC.
My concern is about his new partner, whom I understand "knows about him being arrested but it's all lies" being manipulated into assisting him in his abuse. I understand that this is often the case, where the women are manipulated and made to believe that the man was the victim and often come to hate the ex with a passion, assisting with custody battles, etc.
He has previously asked a police friend to check records on his behalf to find out where I lived. Fortunately she didn't and informed her superiors as well as me. He knows where I live now and theres no issue with that.
However I'm worried that as his new partner is a nurse, he may try to manipulate her into accessing my medical records. He always goes on about me being "mental" and needing help etc so I can imagine he would love it if she were to access my files and give him some ammo.

My question is, does anyone know if she can? I'm not saying she will, but he can be very persuasive.
I am in a neighbouring town to the hospital where she works but within the same NHS trust area.

Thanks

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TitianaTitsling · 03/01/2020 07:27

If she did it would leave a trail and she would likely lose her NMC pin so her registration and job, as she would have no legitimate reason for doing so.

Feminazgul · 03/01/2020 07:27

As I understand it, if she were to be somehow persuaded to break the law any attempt she made to log in and check your medical records would be logged on the computer system and she would find herself in big trouble if investigated.

ihavedonethisbefore · 03/01/2020 07:29

She would need to get caught though. What kind of nurse is she? Is it in the same trust where you are a patient? If that's the case it is much easier for her to access your medical records.

Howmanysleepsnow · 03/01/2020 07:50

The database flags up if anyone opens a file for a patient who doesn’t have an open episode to their team. If you try, you get a warning highlighting this and are liable to lose your pin if you proceed without reason.

user1019273703 · 03/01/2020 07:57

Everything would have a trail and it would show if she decided to look. She would get in to a lot of trouble if she did and would most likely loose her job over it.

Upstartcrones · 03/01/2020 07:59

I would write a letter to your medical centre outlining your concerns, highlight the previous arrest and name the individual you are concerned will access your records. They may be able to enter this against your records and cross check against who is accessing them. If you've flagged it up as a risk they have to managed it as a potential data breech and monitor accordingly.

GirIAfraid · 03/01/2020 08:18

My ex DH worked for the inland revenue and found out which refuge I was living in using my NI number. I complained but he was never brought to book for it.

I think (or would like to think, anyway) that medical records are much harder to access/abuse, though.

Hortuslover · 03/01/2020 08:36

Not sure if this is trust wife but I’m a ward nurse and can’t access patients full records, I can access blood results. Anything with mental health records would be on your gp records which as far as I know can’t be accessed. If you have been under a cpn then they have their own database which isn’t linked to hospital records.

And she would be absolutely foolish to do this, audits are taken place and it will flag up any unnecessary access.

Hortuslover · 03/01/2020 08:36

Wife - wide

whydoesitalwayshappentome · 03/01/2020 10:27

It would not be possible to do this without the system knowing who accessed it (all staff have their own ID cards for computer use) she would get in a lot of trouble for doing so.

Fuzzybum · 03/01/2020 10:32

I understand that these things are often recorded who accessed and from where, but like someone said she would have to get caught first. He is extremely manipulative and I'm sure that with enough coersion on his part she could be persuaded despite the risk.
Like I said hes already asked a police officer to abuse their system, so asking his girlfriend to do the same wouldn't be too far fetched.
I will speak to my GP surgery just in case

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