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Interacting with my LD whilst at nursery

29 replies

TME2706 · 02/01/2020 08:50

Hi guys,
My little girl started nursery recently and am desperately missing her. I receive a couple of pictures on the Tapestry portal each week but I was hoping to be able to chat to her and have a bit more interaction. Is this something that any of you have with your nursery? If so, what do they use?
Thanks!

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TheCanterburyWhales · 02/01/2020 08:54

Never heard of it.

Do her keyworkers say she is settling in well? How long is she there for?

HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime · 02/01/2020 08:57

I don't know of any nursery's or even childminders that have the time or staff to set up contact during the nursery day.
Children settle fairly quickly once the parent is out of sight so reminding them of their parent not being there probably won't do any good to the child either.

Why are you missing her so desperately?The day will pass quicker if you focus on work or are you at home, if so why not keep DC with you.

Perhaps a nanny would be more appropriate for what you want/need but that obviously comes at a price.

ExpletiveDelighted · 02/01/2020 09:00

I've never heard of this, I would guess most people are busy at work when the DC are at nursery?

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Littlefish · 02/01/2020 09:01

This is not something I've ever heard of. As a pp suggested, if this is very important to you, then perhaps consider a nanny. How many days and for how long each day is your dd in nursery?

BelfastNonBlonde · 02/01/2020 09:02

You might run the risk of upsetting her if she can’t actually get to you?

I’m sure it’s hard but you just need t give it some more time... you’ll get more used to it.

That, and, probably a bit unreasonable to expect the staff to take time out to facilitate..

Selfsettling3 · 02/01/2020 09:05

I don’t think it would be in the best interests of your child as she will probably end upset confused and upset.

codenameduchess · 02/01/2020 09:15

It's not something I would think a nursery would do. The time they were faffing about for you to talk to your dd would mean another child wasn't being supervised adequately, or while another child was talking to their parent yours wouldn't be supervised, they simply don't have the resource.

Very odd thing to expect. Ime the parents are given updates as and when via tapestry or similar and then a debrief at pick up. If there was a problem through the day that needed your attention they would call you.

CosmoK · 02/01/2020 09:17

I think this would be confusing for your child and a huge hassle for nursery.

TwoZeroTwoZero · 02/01/2020 09:18

I think Tapestry is similar to the Class Dojo thing that a lot of schools use; I think it's a communication aid between home and school/nursery. No school or nursery I've ever worked in have allowed, had the time or the staff for or have wanted the parents to directly talk to their children whilst actually there during the day.

Op I think you need to give your child time to settle in and that by remotely communicating with her will just confuse and upset her.

Why are you missing her so much? What are you doing whilst she's at nursery? How old is she? Perhaps keep yourself busy during the day and remember that you still exist outside of your child.

FraglesRock · 02/01/2020 09:19

So she's settled well but you haven't adjusted, so you want to be able to talk to her during her day, spoil her fun and make her miss you...

Parenting is about putting children's needs first.

TriangleBingoBongo · 02/01/2020 09:20

Would it unsettle her? I know my little one takes a while to settle without me but once he’s settled he’s fine. If he saw me/heard me he’d need resettling all over.

AfterSchoolWorry · 02/01/2020 09:21

That's not how it works!

Onceuponatimethen · 02/01/2020 09:21

I have heard of a school with a nursery class that do this, but it’s a private alternative style school.

They allow parents to physically pop in any time they want. They also have screens you can watch to see what is happening in their room (but child can’t see you).

But this is very rare

RhymingRabbit3 · 02/01/2020 09:21

Nurseries dont have the time or staffing to facilitate this. If you need regular contact with her during the day then you need to look at a nanny, family care or looking after her yourself.

hazeyjane · 02/01/2020 09:22

I think it would be very unsettling and confusing for a child.

Onceuponatimethen · 02/01/2020 09:23

This wouldn’t have worked for my dds at this age - even in reception they would get upset if I went into school like for assembly etc and then had to leave again

peachgreen · 02/01/2020 09:23

Sounds like a terrible idea for the child. Very confusing.

CalamityJune · 02/01/2020 09:23

I also think this is not being fair on your daughter. The aim is for her to be settled and having loads of fun at nursery, not to be confused and missing you.

Original poster
TME2706 · 02/01/2020 09:29

Thanks for your thoughts, all. I just wondered if anything like this existed.

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Dieu · 02/01/2020 09:36

You can't be serious?!
It's not about you, it's about her, and chatting with you at nursery is hardly going to help her settle Hmm

scarecrowhead · 02/01/2020 09:46

Don't be silly

FenellaMaxwell · 02/01/2020 09:54

Surely all that would do is upset your child and take up time the nursery staff could be using to plan and do fun activities with them? Confused

sauvignonblancplz · 02/01/2020 09:57

You don’t have to send your child to nursery.

notthemum · 02/01/2020 09:57

Hi OP. Afraid not. You get a debrief at the end of the session. Staff honestly don't have time to do this and it would probably upset both you and your child.
I used to childminder and for new parents I would try and text them a couple of times a day but only for the first week or so.
I understand how difficult it is for you to leave your little one but they will settle much quicker without you.
Please try to see it as your time with adults and your little ones time to meet and make new friends. They will get all they need from nursery and what they need from you is to see you are relaxed about it and excited to see them and see/hear about there day.
I promise you that it will get easier, just give it a bit of time. 💐

babasaclover · 02/01/2020 09:58

I don't think it is a thing unfortunately. I remember crying In the car after I dropped her off. In fact my first two weeks back at work I cried in the toilets. She however thrived. I remember getting really excited when I saw cameras around the nursery as I assumed we could login and look at them during the day but it was just for staff.

Hang in there and it does get easier as time goes on 😘

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