Fancy a chat?

[ConfusedAndStressed95]

I'm alone and bored and feeling melancholic. Any around that just fancies a chat? About anything, I don't really need advice but I'm rather lonely and have no family or friends to talk to right now.

Hello! I can talk for Britain! Go in, ask me anything.

I'll chat - don't know what about but I'll have a go! What are you doing right now?

Hi @CormoranStrike, what book or movie recommendations? @Dictionariesandpictionaries, right now I'm not doing a lot. I am trying to decide if I'm going to build or buy PC. And working out if NY resolutions are worth making. There are things I'd like to change in the coming year but I don't want to go for the cliche line of everything is going to be different or better.

Apologies, @CormoranStrike, phrasing failed completely there. What are your favorite book or movie recommendations?

Me too re the resolutions. I rarely keep them tbh unless it's something good I'm doing anyway, or they're really specific (ie tiny! Is that PC as in you're thinking of building an actual computer? If so, serious respect!

@Dictionariesandpictionaries, I think the big ones for me would be to be more open with the people I love and to tell people that I care about them more. I'm not very good at that because I generally go with actions speak louder than words, but sometimes people need to hear it instead. I think also doing more social activities or more generally things that scare me and putting myself out their more is something I want to work on. But I'm not sure that those should be resolutions as I think it's more committing to personal growth rather than changing my life or myself as people seem to want to do.

Yeah a desktop computer is what I'm thinking of building. I used to game semi-professionally a few years ago and built my old PC when I was 12ish but it's been a really long time since I've done it and I want to get back into it, but decent gaming PC's cost at least £1000 and I do not have that kind of money to spend on a toy so I figure if I build my own I can buy parts throughout the year when I can afford them instead. It's better for my bank account and will let me brush up on my tech skills at the same time. I'll likely have to ask one of my friends to help me to program it though.

Wow building a pc is so cool... (can you tell I'm shit at technology 😂)
They sounds like good things to be thinking about, I guess resolutions can be whatever you want really. Maybe you could pick a few specific social things to go to if you want to make it more achievable?
I know what you mean about telling people that you care about them, I struggle with it too. I get nervous when I go to open my mouth to say "I love you" and so on, so more often than not I just bottle out even with close friends/ family. A friend of mine uses postits to say that kind of thing so it's a bit more remote but still personal, I might try it

Sorry, got stuck on a phone call.

I love the crime genre, especially books based in Britain.

For a touch of dark humour with your crime Stuart Macbride and Christopher Brookmyre are best.

Gillian McAllister is an MNer and I very much enjoy her books: I like them anyway, but like them more knowing she is one of us!

Movies wise my tastes are varied, but I generally love action thrillers and hate crude comedies like Bad Grampa/Bridesmaids.

@Dictionariesandpictionaries, I've not done anything tech related since I was about 14 and took my computer apart to clean it. So I'm about 10/11 years out of touch with tech. But lots of my friends live and breath this sort of thing and once they hear about it will be itching to take over so I doubt I'll be able to go too far wrong
One of my housemates is itching to get me to go dancing with her, I went to a theater school so I can dance but always refuse to go because I find it incredibly stressful, so maybe next time she invites me I may go along with her.
I'm considering writing little cards or messages to my friends telling them that I love them and how great they are and how much I appreciate them and the difference they make in my life. But I'm unsure how to go about it in a way that doesn't make me look insane, send the wrong message or make them worry about me because it's so out of character for me. I've only ever told them I love them or that they're wonderful when I'm drunk.

@CormoranStrike, it's fine , I love crime shows and books, but I've not heard of these authors so I'll check them out. It's always fun buying new books. Action thrillers are fab, I don't like crude comedies either. I don't like blue humor at all really.

Sounds like you will have plenty of advice then!
I would try the dancing, if it's too stressful you don't have to go back. Is the dancing itself or the people bit?
The cards idea sounds lovely, it will brighten their day and even better they can keep it if they like

@Dictionariesandpictionaries, you don't think it's over the top, creepy or weird? I just think it'll be easier for me to write it out than it will be to say it and a card might be more personal than a text.

I think you'd have to be careful how you worded it of course, but if done right and for close friends I think they will love it. I once got a card with a love poem in it detailing things like where I was born (not where I lived) and other personal stuff from an acquaintance, that was creepy and I did avoid them afterwards. But my best friend and I send each other little postcards, cards etc with the odd soppy bit but also our usual tongue in cheek humour in the post, that's sweet and lovely and it works for us as we both find it difficult to say out loud and he can struggle with pushing people away. I'm sure it will be fine 🙂

Also sorry to disappear, had to cook tea!

@Dictionariesandpictures, no worries , I wouldn't do that because that is incredibly weird. I was thinking more along the lines that I'm thankful for how me and my best friend ended up living together in our first year of uni, completely by chance and how lucky I am because of it and how grateful I am to have her as a friend.

I think I'd struggle most with what to say to one of my male friends. He's not an easy person to be friends with and tends to annoy most people, but he's always nice to me, he is another non demonstrative person who cares far far more than he want's anyone to know. I know despite that he'll like hearing how I feel about him. He's aware that he often upsets people due to social ineptitude and a lot of people don't like him and the ones that do don't often tell him. I think it'll help him to hear it in some form.

That sounds like a really good message to your best friend. And yeah, I reckon that when it's hardest to say and connect like that it's probably the most needed

I just hope I don't give him the wrong impression. Neither of us are particularly socially adept so there is a fair chance of that happening. I'll just have to carefully consider what I say and how.

Yeah.. I would put the words "as a friend" in there somewhere 😂
Good luck with it, I'm going to bed now 🙂

Yeah, I'll squeeze it in there somehow, otherwise we'll have to have a long and awkward conversation to clarify things. Thank you for talking to me.

Goodnight

Good night, glad the chat helped