Can't Stop Thinking About This Person *Trigger warning Suicide*

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I learnt yesterday that a person I know ended their life just before Xmas
I'm so shocked as they always were the life and soul of the party and a real 'do gooder'
They had 4 young children and a lovely spouse
I cannot stop thinking about it, how much pain must some one be in to end their life when hours before they were on a day out with the family?
Then I think how angry/devastated the spouse must be to be left with 4 kids and no partner right at Xmas time.
Don't know what I want to gain from posting, it's just so so sad and such a waste.
It's so close to home as one of my DC suffers from depression and it's just made me really think today.
If you think someone is depressed, talk to them, and if it's you, please ask for help

I’m sorry that’s happened.
Sadly, there isn’t a lot of help available for people.
In my experience, people will happily post pictures encouraging people to talk, but really there is no one there when you need them.

I know mental health resources are pretty poor. My DC was told by the GP to eat more healthily and get some sleep
I just can't get this little family out of my thoughts today, how do you even start to explain to the kids?!

Really sad OP.

Very poor that your GP didn't take your DC seriously.

So sad to hear about but to be honest, it is hard to know who to talk to. Nobody likes to be a burden or to feel like they are dragging others down. Then what does the person do with the information? If it is an immediate threat, they can call 999 but if not, there isn't a lot they can do. Resources aren't great unless you can afford private therapy. It is a tough position to want to put untrained people into.

What I find hard is that the partner had absolutely no idea how the person felt. They appeared just as they always did, they'd been Xmas shopping and wrapped the kids presents. They'd bought presents for each other and had made plans. I think that's what I can't get my head round, what on earth goes through someone's mind to want to leave their spouse and beautiful longed for children when on the surface carrying on with life as usual. The spouse feels really guilty and thinks they should have known but how can you know?! I feel so sad for them.

My dsis has this happen to her close friend years back. It is so sad. She says she thinks she thought the family were better off without her