Constantly feeling guilty that I should be spending my time more productively

[GodolphianArabian]

Does anyone else feel like they don't get enough done. Or that they're doing the wrong things when they have time off. I know I'm not lazy, but I always feel my priorities are wrong but don't know what they should be. My to do list is never ending and I always feel I should have accomplished more. Basically I never feel I properly relax because I always feel guilty that I'm not being productive.

Hell - yes!

Yes!! It's horrible

All the time. It really gets me down - and then I feel to lousy to do the productive things I'm mad at myself for not doing 🙄

So it's not just me! Have any of you any tips tricks or books etc to help? I'm so sick of feeling this way. Is it just part of being an adult? Parent?

Small to do lists or even better backwards lists where you write down what you e done after you've done it. You'll be surprised how much you get done without even realising it.

Yep this is one of my biggest issues. If I'm honest sometimes it gets so much I then end up doing nothing which makes me worse.

I did oddly see a meme on Instagram (which I usually consider meaningless) about not defining myself by how productive I've been. It helps sometimes to remind me that it's actually ok to stop and not feel guilty. Of course other times a little voice tells me that's a load of rubbish and to get on with it.

I think I started to realise that frankly the to do list will never actually be completed as I'm constantly adding to it. That realisation took a little but of pressure off.

I'm a bit better and am a bit more laid back but very much a work in progress so if anyone has any tips I'd be grateful.

Yes! The best tip I’ve had for dealing with this is to “make peace” with your to do list. Accept that it will never be completed, because there will always be something more you can do. Just keep plugging away at it as and when you can, ticking things off as you go and you will see an improvement.

I’ve done loads of tasks to improve the house over the past two years and finally feel that it’s all added up and made a difference to the overall space. There’s still a long way to go but I’ll get there eventually!