Would you have a Caesarean if you were me?

[SproutMuncher]

I’m due next Spring with my second baby, and am terrified about the birth and the state I will end up in.

My son (about to turn two) was delivered with forceps and since then I’ve been in pain from the episiotomy and have a moderate bladder and bowel prolapse, which I’m very depressed about, and don’t really have any confidence any more.

I want to deliver vaginally as I know Caesareans are major surgery and The midwife has really scared me about the risks, but I’m really scared another vaginal delivery will make my problems worse which I am desperate to avoid. Surely a section is better than spending the rest of my life with even worse birth injuries?

Anyone been in a similar situation or any thoughts on what you’d do if you were me?

Thank you so much for the replies. It’s really helped me make my mind up to be firm when I speak to the consultant.

sunshinegirl82 no funnily enough she didn’t mention the risks of a vaginal birth - nor did the mention the risks of induction when they induced me, except that I was at a higher risk of a caesarean!

grumpyhoonmain I know pregnancy is bad for the pelvic floor - that will be what it will be. I’m worried about the birth making it even worse. It was definitely the birth not the pregnancy that did the damage for me last time.

It's a 100% yes for a section from me! You will need to be pushy for it and ignore the scare tactics, hospitals are just thinking about their stats. Good luck x

Agree, just repeat, repeat repeat that you want one.

First delivery was in theatre with forceps but ready for a section if they hadn't managed to get baby out. Second I was offered a section as baby was measuring very large. Just under 11lb baby born by elective section and was a much better experience. I recovered, healed and felt better after the section than I did after the first birth.
C sections should not be taken lightly as they are major abdominal surgery but it does sound like you had an awful time with your other birth and are still suffering from it so in my non professional opinion delivering another baby vaginally surely can't make your current situation any better.
The midwife will be scaring you because there are risks and they will know/believe that this baby can be delivered but you are well within your rights to protect your body as you are the one living with the after effects not them.

Have only skim read the thread so apologies if this has already been said. Your previous birth makes you sound like a possible candidate for some kind of prolapse (believe me - I know!) which will become an even higher risk if you have to go through that again. C section all the way !