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Shaken after son's accident

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 18:42

Hello,
My DS (7) fell at the park today and cut his head quite badly. DH had taken him as I had popped into my workplace to clean the offices. Received a frantic call from DH saying DS had hurt his head and needed to get him to A&E. My legs went to jelly as I quickly locked up and DH would collect me (the park was only 0.5 miles away from where I work). A few minutes later DH arrived and when I saw DS in the car with tissue on his face covered in blood I nearly died. DH was very shaken. Said he'd run up a grassy bank to go down a large metal slide, slipped on banged head straight on the side of it. Staff at A&E were fantastic, deep cut was cleaned and glued. Back home now and I feel very shaky, anxious and tearful. DS is fine, playing with his toys and has eaten his dinner. I feel very shocked still, very shaken up, legs still feel like jelly. Can't even contemplate a cup of tea or anything, feel like I want to be sick. Is it normal to feel like this? DS has been so brave bless him! Taken it in his stride!

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SheRaTheAllPowerful · 30/12/2019 18:43

Totally normal you’ve had a massive shock, don’t be too hard on yourself, hand hold x

CodYe · 30/12/2019 18:44

Sounds awful. Of course you're shaken - your baby was covered in blood! At least he's okay. Get thee a cuppa or a glass of wine Smile

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 18:45

Thank you SheRa. Just feels like an out of body experience, feels very strange! DS is carrying on as normal and I'm a wreck!

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 18:45

Codye, thank you yes I definitely will do!

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Bybbyeblackbird · 30/12/2019 18:46

Glad your ds is alright. It's horrible when they have an accident and normal to feel shaky afterwards. Try and have a cup of tea and toast or something at least.

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 18:46

Once the nurse had cleaned the wound up it didn't look half as bad as I thought it would

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Louise91417 · 30/12/2019 18:50

Totally normal, happened me once when dd had an accident. I was totally calm at time then when dd was tended to i went to bits. Was shaking uncontrollably and crying..think it was delayed shock and subconscious telling me it was close to being so devastatingly worse. Its an eye opener to how fragile and precious life is..scaryShock

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 18:52

Louise, it's so scary isn't it. DH said it happened in a flash. He's a boisterous lad and plays Rugby every week and this is the first time we've ever had anything happen like this. Hope your DD is OK now.

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PuntasticUsername · 30/12/2019 18:54

Totally normal reaction. Kids tend to take these things more in their strides. They don't have a) our years of worrying about them as parents, constantly on the alert for accidents and b) the experience/imagination to think how it could have been worse! Go easy on yourself, you'll feel much better in a day or two.

FAQs · 30/12/2019 18:56

Heads always bleed quite dramatically and look like something from a horror film so that probably didn’t help. My daughter snapped two bones and I could see one under the skin, that shocked me a little and I’m usually rock solid on any injuries.

greenlavender · 30/12/2019 18:57

Totally normal reaction OP, but saying 'I nearly died' is inappropriate & will be triggering for some.

danni0509 · 30/12/2019 18:58

It's normal to feel shaken OP, I always feel like when ds has given himself a nasty injury Thanks

ds has had a various accidents needing a&e but a recent one was, ds threw a metal model plane really hard up at the ceiling and it came back down with such force and where did it hit him? Straight on top of the head! It took a chunk from his scalp, it honestly looked like the Texas chain saw massacre. I had to get a neighbour to take us to hospital in her car while I sat in the back trying to stop his head bleeding, I couldn't believe the amount of blood not could the dr. Then bcos he's autistic he wouldn't let the drs anywhere near him to glue it so they sent us home with an open wound which thankfully had stopped bleeding at this point, he's got a lovely scar now. (To match the one on his chin when he split that open!)

Kids hey!

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 19:05

@greenlavender it's a figure of speech. I didn't mean it literally, obviously??!
I meant I was very shocked and shaken.
Jeez

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 19:09

Thank you for all kind replies.
@greenlavender, yes if my child is sitting covered in blood I am in my rights to use whatever figure of speech I like to describe it. I was extremely shocked and scared, still am. If you are upset by this then too bad.
You dare not say anything on these boards sometimes without a precious little snowflake drifting by.

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ipswichwitch · 30/12/2019 19:12

I remember DS1 running then tripping face first onto the stairs, and bit right through his tongue. The blood was horrifying - I’m an hcp and have seen a lot of blood in my time- bit this was so much worse because it was coming out of my child! By the time he got checked over he was fine, but I was a wreck. He had a hell of a chunk out of his tongue for some time, which he delighted in showing everyone, while I was still shaky cleaning the blood off the floor later that day!

BrieAndChilli · 30/12/2019 19:12

When DS1 was 8 he had a burst appendix. During getting him to hospital and during his surgery and couple of days in hospital I was fine, just coping with the task at hand and concentrating on DS. A couple of days after we got home I think I finally let myself think about it and completely went to bits. I think it’s a reaction once all the adrenaline that sees you through the crisis has worn off.

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 19:14

@Brie, so scary. It's weird how it really hits home after the event. Hope your DS is OK now. DH just said the same, feels very overwhelming afterwards!

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Aquamarine1029 · 30/12/2019 19:14

Your body is still processing the massive rush of hormones you experienced. It would help to dance around, take a walk, bounce about, etc.

SecretNutellaFix · 30/12/2019 19:15

Head cuts often look far, far worse than they actually are because they bleed so freely and it makes people scared because there's always the fear of serious head injuries, which luckily didn't happen to your son.
I have an inch long scar above my eyebrow from a head cut about 2 years ago and it bled for about an hour in total. It looked awful, but once cleaned up and glued it healed fairly quickly. In my case my DH managed to close the car door on my head.
As for the shakiness? Adrenaline has a lot to answer for. Plan for a quiet day tomorrow if you can and make yourselves some hot sweet tea. for some reason, it helps.

Thefaceofboe · 30/12/2019 19:15

@greenlavender for god sake Hmm

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 19:16

@ipswichwitch ouch your poor DS. 😔 The things kids get up to. I swear I've got extra grey hairs after today

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Suzyduzy87 · 30/12/2019 19:17

Thank you all so much.
I'll be back shortly, I'm taking the dog out for a walk. She's barking and driving me mad! DS is watching a film, seems fine.
Thanks

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Mlou32 · 30/12/2019 19:20

There is nothing wrong with your reaction. Have a relaxing evening, an early night and tomorrow you'll be right as rain Smile

betternamechangeforthisone · 30/12/2019 19:20

Oh bless you. My DC cut their face (you sons sounds much much much worse though!) and OH and I had to take turns sitting with our head between our knees while we waited for her to be looked at Blush

Sprinklemetinsel · 30/12/2019 19:22

Adrenaline slump! Walking the dog will help, plus a cuddle and a cry, if that's available.

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