Should I spend NYE with random family I met in pub?

[Newdilemma]

About a week ago I went to the pub by myself in the evening to read a paper and have a drink. A drunk and merry guy started to chat to me and invited me to join the table with his wife and extended family. They were very nice. Another drunk and merry guy who was part of this family asked me what I was doing for NYE and when I said 'nothing' he invited me to their NYE party. A wife took my phone number and said they really mean it and the whole street join this party.

I would like to go. I am fairly new in town and could do with meeting new people and you never know, I might make a new friend or at least have a nice night. But it is weird to go being as I don't really know them and they were drunk (or at least the guy who invited me was). I spent about 90mins chatting to them in the pub and they invited me to the party at the end before they left. Should I go?

Oh what a shame..she might have mislaid her phone
anything could have happened

Yes she must've given you the wrong number by mistake. You are obviously open to making friends as you got chatting to them in the first place. Stay open and approachable op, people will come to you.

Nah, she definitely had the right number as the husband got me to text her to check I'd taken it and she got the message I sent.

Mrs Chatterbox I have been trying to go out and meet people. I have got a couple of hobbies - but it just seems really hard to move past casual acquaintances to actual friends. I guess by my age most people have established friendship groups, and don't really have time to anyone else. That non-invite has really dealt a blow to my confidence. I'm feeling pretty low about things atm..

I don't ever manage to move from casual acquaintances either op. It's sad

We about have you moved OP? We could maybe suggest local stuff for you x

Ooh, sorry about the x... I think I'm still drunk!

Real friends will take time to make they won't happen straight away. Continue chatting to the casual acquaintances. Then when you are feeling confident enough invite someone to something out of the hobby. You will get there! The blow to confidence is natural but time will heal.

I would say it's not so much they "don't have time to add anyone else", more like what the pp said in that it takes time to establish a deeper friendship. For example it took me several years of daily hellos etc to the same.people to start to build those familiar bridges. It'll come in time. Have you any meetup groups where you are?

Ah sorry to hear its left you low. Anything could have happened for the family though, who knows. I still think you had a great attitude in wanting to go!
You will get more offers I'm sure with that great attitude, as a PP said saying yes to things leads to unexpected friendships. Good luck!

That’s such a shame @Newdilemma. Try not to let it upset you. Hopefully this will look up for you soon

Yeah I know. I guess it is just at a time like this when I don't really have anyone to spend time with. My work pattern can make it hard for me to get out - I can only really get out one evening on a weekday. There is a meetup group I would love to go to but I can't make that day. Oh well, I will just keep plodding along. A WhatsApp group has just been set up for one of my hobbies so I might send around a general invite to see if anyone wants to go with me to something related to the hobby. I was also thinking of seeing if anyone was interested in a workshop related to the hobby that I could try and organise, so that might help too.

Sometimes people get a bit carried away and in the cold light of day may think twice about it .Seems a shame really, but maybe the wife wasnt too happy? The Whats App group seems more promising and you will meet like minded people there .

Oh that’s a shame op. It is hard making friends.

Yes, it is. Thanks everyone for your kind and supportive thoughts.