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Birthday outing for 12 year old daughter

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Clarinet53 · 29/12/2019 19:35

My daughter turns 12 on New Years Eve. Was going to take her trampolining with her friends but she's been let down.

I've offered lazer tag, roller & ice skating, cinema, shopping and lunch, pottery painting. Don't have a group so can't do the local go karting circuits. Also offered taking her to get hair and nails done.

I would appreciate some ideas as she doesn't want to do any of the above and says I don't put any effort into her birthday

Thanks in advance 🙂

OP posts:
Loveislandaddict · 29/12/2019 19:42

Afternoon tea at local hotel

Sleepover and pamper party

Maybe she considers things like pottery is too young for her. Maybe ask what her friends have done for their 12th birthdays.

RhymingRabbit3 · 29/12/2019 21:10

Escape room?

AdoptedBumpkin · 29/12/2019 21:30

Those seem like perfectly good ideas to me...for a 12 yo anyway. I'm sure you have put in a lot of effort.

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Avebury · 30/12/2019 15:58

Is it the trampoline place that has let her down or her friends?

madnessitellyou · 30/12/2019 16:17

My 12 yo dd does this. Doesn’t want to do anything, then complain we don’t do anything...

Honestly? At this point, I’d be telling her that you’ve given lots of options, she doesn’t want to do anything, so therefore unless she can suggest something, you won’t be doing anything.

Winterdaysarehere · 30/12/2019 16:19

My dd is 13 tomorrow!! We all go to the local Chinese buffet every year.

Beamur · 30/12/2019 16:24

My DD says she'd happily do any of your suggestions (apart from shopping) Grin
Clip n climb
Have you got a ski/toboggan indoor place nearby?
Boat trip/wildlife watching
Jewellery making of some kind?
Zoo trip/keeper for a day

SnuggyBuggy · 30/12/2019 16:27

If she doesn't want to do anything then I'd leave it for now. It's an awkward age for birthdays and she may be getting to the stage where she'd rather do things with her friends.

madnessitellyou · 30/12/2019 16:33

Was the plan to have a family outing? What about allowing her and a couple of friends to have lunch alone? My DD’s friend did that and they had a fab time.

Winterdaysarehere · 30/12/2019 16:40

Dd accepted long ago her actual birthday is just too hectic for dps to commit to party invites.
Family meal on the day and something like a sleepover when they go back to school.

TheReef · 30/12/2019 16:44

Horse riding lesson?

Wigeon · 30/12/2019 16:44

My DD wants to do Go Ape for her 12rh birthday (in 2020).

How is she claiming that you make no effort when you’ve suggested loads of things? What does she want to do?

OceanSunFish · 30/12/2019 16:46

You've offered loads of fun suggestions! Now ask her for ideas.

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Clarinet53 · 30/12/2019 19:25

Have calmed her down. I've arranged for her favourite cousin to go shopping with us tomorrow and have afternoon cake at the best tea shop. Then Chinese take away in the evening.

Her dad has gone and got her some new boxing gloves so think she'll be happy.

Thanks for the replies 🙂

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Wigeon · 30/12/2019 21:31

Excellent

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