Social services, so worried!

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Earlier today, DS20 months ran into my bedroom whilst I was getting ready. I had my straighteners on the heat mat and he managed to grab them for a mini second, just before DH picked him up.

He had a burn on his thumb, we immediately ran into the bathroom and ran his hand under cool water. Of course he was hysterical at this point.

The skin looked as though it was blistering, so I rang 111 who suggested we take him over to A&E for an assessment. He was fine at this point, not bothered about the thumb and playing happily. Thumb is now bandaged and GP appointment on Tuesday.

I'm still very shaken up and I'm terrified that the hospital are going to inform SS. It was all so quick, DH opened the bedroom door and DS ran in... it was over in seconds

He's a happy boy, nothing previous etc. I don't know if I'm just panicking over nothing.

Please no negative comments.

You will probably get a call from your health visitor, I doubt ss would be informed unless your health visitor had further concerns

My dd burnt her hand on a light bulb, she was 3, she nearly bit her tongue off falling off a seesaw in soft play when she was 5, then got her foot trodden on by a horse at about 7, few weeks layer toenail fell off.

My dd has always been really resilient to illness so these were pretty much the only things on her medical record.

The nurse made a comment, something like oooh we only see her when shehurts herself. More alluding to her being healthy is what i thought - no mention of social services

I don't know if they will or not...they'll most certainly tell your hv though. Even if ss are informed, I wouldn't be too worried. Cooperate, reassure them that you've learnt your lesson and you've reviewed any potential hazards and made sure your home is totally baby proofed. You aren't the first parent this will have happened to.

Why is everyone saying she has sought medical attention? The OP hasn’t. She rang 111 who said go to A and E and she has decided not to follow his advice.

In the last year, DGS has fallen down the stairs, thrown himself off dd's lap and broken his arm, and blistered his hand on the stove. SS haven't been in touch, nor will they be, as he treats A&E as yet another opportunity to make friends.

Varies as to whether they refer on but most I've heard of amongst friends is SS do is a home visit, see all is fine and go away. They've got a lot bigger issues than children with caring parents having the occasional accident. I've only known one case of a home visit - was a baby falling off sofa whilst Mum on phone, very sensible parents, mostly nothing happens or a phone call or a letter to say they are taking no action.

When my LB was about 9 months and crawling around, he crawled out of the living room and into the hall, over to the low window silk and pulled himself up by wrapping his wee hand around the radiator pipe that was roasting hot. I was right there and it still happened, I don't know why it didn't occur to me! His cried so so much and eventually just cried himself to sleep, I called and spoke to dr and described what it was like and he advised me to bring him in the next day although by my description it didn't sound like it needed dressed, I took him in the next day and true enough despite the blisters etc dr advised to let it heal without dressing it. It was honestly awful, the guilt was horrendous especially when I'd been right there and watched him do it! So I know how terrible you are feeling right now. I'm sure it was written on his notes but nobody from SS ever contacted me and it's never been mentioned since! These things do happen, try not to beat yourself up!

Stop worrying. One of my sons burnt his hand on a radiator(not at home) and we took him be checked, I had a call about a week later from hv who just asked if it was healing ok and. They might give you some home safety advice as it happened at home.

Accidents happen.

Thank you for your comments everyone.

@Selfsettling3 we did follow medical advice, we went to A&E. Apologies if that was not clear

I use my hair straighteners in the kitchen when the kids are small high up on the cooker cable out of reach not the most hygienic but I wash everything before i cook anyway so 🤷‍♀️

Exactly the same happened to me when DS was 2.5.

Health Visitor was informed - called me and told me that because of the type of injury she had to make contact but as there were no other concerns she would just be making the phone call - asked how he was and said 'now I've got to officially tell you off and not to leave them where he can get to them' I was really upset and she couldn't have been nicer.

It depends on the area I think but unless this is a line of accidents or you are already known to SS I doubt it very much.

I would be very surprised if they referred you to SS.

The local safeguarding nurse may pick up the attendance and flag it to the HV and ask them to call you to go through 'home safety' but this will be it

I wouldn’t worry about SS. By the time my DC was 5 yrs old I’d been up to A&E with him so many times I joked we had a season ticket.Social services were never informed ( at least not to my knowledge as I was never contacted by them).Injuries included a broken nose from hitting his head on a coffee table, crushed finger after another child closed a door on it,enormous bump on head and black eyes after tripping on kerb,broken wrist ,the list goes on.

The naivety on this thread about how much time Social Workers and Health Visitors have to be looking into genuine accidents is unbelievable.

try contacting a sw when you really need them (scarce commodity) ds had season ticket to a & e from about age 2 to 8 -his asthma nurse was pleased as she believed it was good evidence that his lungs were working well - his had stiches in his head & glued because of various falls (usually caused by ballgames or falling off his bike or getting his fingers trapped in something - he was a walking disaster area - normal healthy boy - yah!) he had several severe asthma attacks until his medication stabilized it - so we took the accidents as a good sign

All will be ok OP.

Just be more careful in future. Lesson learned I'm sure

No way will as be informed and even if they were they would not be interested in a one off minor injury. I've had a few visits in the past with my 3, eldest broken wrist, youngest broke his wrist and then he broke it falling off a chair 6 weeks after the cast came off,. Middle child stamp on foot from a horse and a year later I actually backed over same foot with the car. Never once was as mentioned as staff knew they were genuine accidents. It's only suspicious incidents or cases of obvious neglect that they will refer to. Relax.

When my little one, about 9 months old at the time (and I'd forgotten he could crawl!) pulled my cup of tea on himself, a few days after our A&E visit, the health visitor rang to ask if all was ok and I wasn't even home and she was happy enough with my husband recounting what had happened.
A couple more A&E visits over the last four years (none involving cups of tea!) and no HV or SS calls or visits!

My daughter is a regular at a&e!! Had been since she was 9 months old! It's always her face that gets it and it's a bloody wonder why the hospital haven't phoned social services out on me 😂
my daughter has burst the stringy bit connecting her top lip to her gum...twice from falling into tv unit and table when she was a baby it bleeds a hell of a lot hence the panic of rushing to a&e.
She was standing behind the door when she was 4 and I had no idea and I opened it, he top tooth came out and there was another lot of blood and what looked like bits of gum hanging off. She proceeded to tell the doctor (at talking age they question them before the parents just incase) that "mummy banged my tooth out"
Last year she fell flat on her face at school and they wanted me to take her to a&e as they suspected a broken nose. Doctor looked at me as if I was mad bringing her in but didn't want to not bring her in and school think I was neglecting her.
Not to mention the amount of times she has been admitted for days at a time with her asthma.
Only thing that's happened is the health visitor phoning once after a bad asthma attack.
I have had social work out before. (A family support worker phoned them after some mental health issues) they came out and didn't see any danger to the children.
There is so much pressure and panic incase social services get phoned. Even if social work were called they would visit and see you are a more than capable mother and be on there way.
Last thing they want is another pointless case added to their work load

That’s good. I was getting really worried.

You won’t be referred to ss even at most a call from HV so she can tick a box.

A and E departments used to send a 'notification' of all 0-5 year olds that attend A and E to the HV team. One of the health visiting team sifts through all the notifications and will look at the number of notifications they've had about your child and decide whether its serious enough to call and discuss with you. They may just talk about accident prevention in the home.

I remember when my little girl was around 6 months old she fell off the bed as she was starting to wriggle around. I was so worried but she was fine, no obvious injuries. I rang 111 who told me to go to the GP which I did (got an emergency appointment same day) . The GP was all very serious and asked me a 100 questions and at the end of the appointment (DD was absolutely fine) said he would inform the HV. Made me feel like the shortest parent on Earth.
I was so worried. Following weekĺ I took my DD for her monthly weigh in at the childrens clinic and the HV asked how she had been, when I mentioned the GP appointment and how they were going to be informed she literally laughed in my face and said she had more serious things to deal with and that this thing happens 100 times a day and the GP shouldn't have made me feel like that as all little children have accidents and then gave me a leaflet on home safety and sent me on my way...

Small update:

Saw the nurse today who redid DS's bandages. Lovely lady and put my mind at ease.

Thumb's healing well and DS couldn't care less

A massive thank you to everyone who took the time to comment, your reassurance has helped me so much