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When you take a Christmas present back and it's now in the sale

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FilthyBiscuit · 29/12/2019 01:24

I was at a friend's today. Her DP bought her a top for Christmas and it didn't fit. They took it back today and swapped it for one in her size, but it's now in the sale so £10 cheaper. She thinks he should get her something else with the £10 he's saved. He thinks she's got the same top, and as he paid for it before Christmas the price difference doesn't matter. I can see both sides, but honestly they were bickering over it all night! Who's right do you think? Should she get another present worth £10 or is about the worth before the discount?

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FiveShelties · 29/12/2019 01:27

He should return the jumper and keep all the money.

Bubs101 · 29/12/2019 01:27

I wouldn't bother with the £10 in all honesty. However if I really wanted something worth it, i'd just pick it up and hand it to DP and get him to buy it. But we share our money anyway so that extra £10 goes back into the shared pot anyway.

Postmissposte · 29/12/2019 01:29

I think it's tragic that they are arguing over this.

bettybattenburg · 29/12/2019 01:29

If he's exchanged it then he won't have been refunded the £10 so no, no extra gift. She's being a CF.

Jsjeksmne · 29/12/2019 01:30

How did they return the item. Did they return with receipt and then re buy it? If she just exchanged it, then the remainder £10 would be left so the assistant could have put it on a gift card or tell you to pick something else additional to make it up?

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FilthyBiscuit · 29/12/2019 01:31

They were bickering, not arguing! It was lighthearted banter, not a full on row. I just couldn't pick a side so wondering what others thought.

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FilthyBiscuit · 29/12/2019 01:34

The original top was refunded and the new top was a new sale. So, say he got £30 back on his card and paid £20 for the new top.

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BlueBirdGreenFence · 29/12/2019 01:38

Your "friend" is being super petty.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 29/12/2019 01:42

She's being ridiculous.

nocutsnobuttsnococonuts · 29/12/2019 01:45

a bit grabby to expect another gift totalling the difference. however the dh could have seen if there was any other sale items she wanted while they were there or said the next tea/coffee stop was on him. 😁

Blackbear19 · 29/12/2019 01:47

They should by a drink with the tenner and stop bickering over it!

SunshineInMySprocket · 29/12/2019 05:09

In this situation, my DH would have said is there anything else you would like and I would have either got something else or not. As someone else said ours is a family pot of money so any difference would have gone back into the pot.

CodenameVillanelle · 29/12/2019 05:17

What a petty thing to argue about. No she shouldn't expect something with the £10 he saved - a nice guy would probably have offered to get her something but if he didn't that's his choice and for her to behave in such a spoilt way is gross.

TulipCat · 29/12/2019 05:20

Oh my God, she is being ridiculous.

KatherineJaneway · 29/12/2019 05:20

She thinks he should get her something else with the £10 he's saved.

How odd, if you are swapping for a different size, no refund should have been given unless they deliberately refunded them purchased at another till.

Pixxie7 · 29/12/2019 06:03

How old is your friend sounds about 4.

Nanna50 · 29/12/2019 07:09

I would like my DH to give me the £10 he saved to spend on myself. However, if the shoe was on the other foot I would probably buy myself something with the £10 that I saved. So how greedy am I?

GiveHerHellFromUs · 29/12/2019 07:12

Gifts aren't about the money spent, though. If it had fitted he wouldn't have got the refund. Is she going to check all the prices of her other presents to see where she can return them and get them cheaper, too?

PoptartPoptart · 29/12/2019 07:19

Arguing or bickering over such a trivial matter says a lot about the state of their relationship imo.
This exact thing happened with me and DH yesterday. I got him a shirt that he wanted for Christmas but it was too big so we swapped it for a smaller size and I got a £9 refund as it was now in the sale. I asked him if there was anything else he wanted. He said no. End of. If he has said yes that would also have been fine.
I am honestly perplexed that this kind of thing is even thought twice about to be honest. People must have way too much time on their hands if they give this more than a nanosecond of brain space.

AlaskaElfForGin · 29/12/2019 07:36

I just couldn't pick a side

Easy. Your friend has clearly missed the meaning of gift giving and is acting like a spoiled brat. It's actually embarrassing that she even considered asking him to buy her something else.

AlaskaElfForGin · 29/12/2019 07:39

How odd, if you are swapping for a different size, no refund should have been given unless they deliberately refunded them purchased at another till.

That's true actually, I didn't think of that. How would he have been given a refund in any case? Wouldn't it just be an exchange?

OddBoots · 29/12/2019 07:52

So he actively has £10 extra in his bank after the process?

When they bought for each other did they do so with a fixed budget or just decide for themselves what to get?

TowelStripes · 29/12/2019 08:03

When my mum realised the PJs she bought me for £30 were reduced to £18, she gave me the receipt and told me to take them back, rebuy them and put the difference toward something else.

Redwinestillfine · 29/12/2019 08:16

She's being grabby

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