Did your dh get you a nice Xmas gift ? Or do you even do gifts ?

[Lardlizard]

I got my dh a nice book related to his hobby
Which apprently he was thinking about buying anyway
So not expensive but quite well thought about

He got me some liquor and I don’t really drink alcohol much at all tbh let alone liquor

I know he got this the day before Xmas eve too

Sorry posted too soon, but tbh I wouldn't really care if I got nothing, I'd rather the dc's have all they want than me.
Xmas morning my SIL was bragging about all the presents her husband got her (there was a lot of expensive presents) but prior to this I had asked their daughter what she got off Santa and she said "not much"

Xmas morning my SIL was bragging about all the presents her husband got her (there was a lot of expensive presents) but prior to this I had asked their daughter what she got off Santa and she said "not much"

Doesn't necessarily mean the daughter went without so that money could be spent on her mother though, more likely the daughter not appreciating how much she actually got.

He's got very little money so I asked him not to buy me anything, and I would find something cheap in the sales after Christmas (we are talking budget of £10 - £20). Unfortunately he ignored this and bought a toiletries gift set that I won't really be able to use - scented lotions whereas I am an E45 only person. I'm a bit disappointed, TBH. I bought him the aftershave he'd asked for and some chocolate I knew he'd like.

Yes, he got me lovely, thoughtful stuff and I got him things he really liked. We both like buying gifts and have no children, so can afford to treat each other

my OH has everything he could possibly want in actual belongings so I got tickets to see Hawkwind as he likes live band gigs, for his birthday next year I have booked joe bonamassa and whitesnake tickets , he bought me a leather office chair as my one was on its last legs but it was a surprise on Christmas day

We have been together 20 years but he’s hopeless

Married 17 years, together 18. We ask each other what we want for the main present then get extra surprises ( he’s better at that than me). My main gift was lingerie. I went with DH to buy it & got measured. The lady suggested 2 sizes. Unfortunately the size I chose turned out to be extremely tight so we went back to exchange it. I didn’t have a gift receipt & one of the sets had been reduced which meant I didn’t get the full amount back ( the other size wasn’t available).Really hate it when that happens! DH offered to pay the difference, bless him. All I had to pay for was the knickers in the new set. He had also bought me a dressing gown & a box of Swiss chocolates. I got him a cycling jacket & a heart rate monitor but didn’t get around to buying him a surprise.

He said he was upset when I very gently said oh what’s this

I don’t understand that-surely it was obvious what it was?

We both have Amazon wish lists as do my parents and the kids. Loads of stuff is on them and added to during the year. You pick stuff you know they want and there’s still an element of surprise!

After my husband bought me an oven glove for Christmas in 2012, I've always bought my own gifts on his behalf.

DH did an amazing job this year. Not expensive stuff, but a naice bubble bath in just the scent I like, a small box of beautiful truffles, a really gorgeous A4 print which he framed, a small Lego set that I wanted. Best of all - I have an old Costa coffee travel mug which is the only travel mug I've ever had that doesn't make tea go funny. Its years old and very battered and Costa don't sell it any more; DH trawled the internet for ages to get me a new one. I was absolutely delighted.

We both love a weekend away so we agree where pre Christmas and book it going 50:50...love it always what we both want..

We have never bought each other presents for an occasion on my suggestion before the first Christmas we were together. The pressure just to buy something for a birthday or Christmas that the other will love following a rather anticipated build up to the big day is just too great. I'd much rather buy each other things on agreement with the receiver. I give presents this way with my family also and it suits us all fine.

We sometimes do gifts for Christmas but more often than not we don’t. We didn’t this year and we didn’t last year.

For birthdays we generally have a long weekend away rather than buying things (unless there is something specific I want in which case I’ll ask for it).

We’ve been together a long time and we have lots of lovely things already. My OH is actually very good at gift-giving, but he shows his love and thoughtfulness in many other ways daily so I don’t need things from him to feel loved and cared for. That makes it easier to not do presents.

If you want to keep doing presents but feel like you’re getting something you actually want and that makes you happy, and especially if he’s no good at gifts and finds it stressful, then the best solution is for you to have an amazon wish list (or similar) which you put things on and he can choose two or three surprises for you from there, according to budget. It takes all the stress out of it but you also get lovely presents.

We don't do gifts. Maybe it's boring to some. But I see this agreement as its own gift - the gift of time not spent shopping, saving money, no stress, no clutter in the house and best of all not having to pretend that I love his gift on Xmas morning.

For the last few years, I've insisted we do a list, like a pair of kids, (we have very different and specific interests so we can both be quite off the mark, it's fine). From that we buy most and a couple of small surprises. Totals from each other were about £100-150. This year, we agreed to small gifts and put the rest to something we want to do next year. We each got about £20 of known favourites to open. Pot is boosted, talking about how good our goal was going to be made Christmas. Job done.

Yes, but I told him the wrong one and we have to exchange anyway. Doh.

We've been together 24 years and he's awesome at gift buying. He also always wraps them beautifully too.

He's quite hard to buy for so I generally make him a gift voucher for a new pair of running shoes or a year's worth of race entry fees or something. My efforts always feel a bit lazy in comparison to what he puts together for me but he's never moaned.

Tell him what you want, saves any disappointment. There is no point not telling someone what you would like, and then being disappointed in the gift they get you.

Last year I told my DP that I wanted a pair of motorbike boots. He agreed that he would get me these. Unfortunately he HATES shopping, so wouldn't come with me to buy any, I couldn't afford to buy them myself and then ask for the money, so I never got them.

I bought him an experience day that he really really wanted.

We split up this year. I'm never going to get those boots, am I?