Prob Christmas tension or something... but need to vent. My sil is visiting at the mo, she’s always been a tricky character tbh but I’m generally laid back and just try not to rise to the bait. There has just been so many comments and sly digs that I’m a bit baffled. I have three dcs , they are fantastic kids , we adore them. They are also very , very high energy ( this is not a subtext for rough or badly behaved as they are really kind and good kids) , two of them are bolters and my two year old will not hold my hand for love or money so have to force it , put him in a buggy or carry him. My sil has the perfect child , literally they do exactly what they are told, they don’t bolt, they sleep 15 hours a day and have done since they were very small. Some of the comments this weekend have included ; why haven’t you thought them to speak your language ( I’m not from the Uk and I do try but revert to English maybe too much ), “ my dc speaks three languages, he might teach yours something “
” my dc has taken my partners name as tbh there’s enough of yours”. ( with my dh surname I guess 
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We went out all day to the beach and when we got back the dcs were starving and hungry and even though we had the LEGO our we’re getting irritated and crying , my dh put on a movie yo distract them ( they hadn’t any tv at all until this point ) , my sil then went on about how her dc has never seen a tv before and she needed to remove them now.
I honestly don’t have an issue with this, my dcs don’t watch tv much at all and we have lots of other rooms if it’s a huge problem.
It’s just constant , two of my dc had weetabix in the morning and this was also remarked on as being unhealthy, my other ds ate porraige and again there was a comment on the honey I added. Her dc is 3 and my youngest is 2 and she commented on a singular bruise my ds had on his leg with almost horror. It was small, I know when he got it...
I just feel really crap and inadequate. It’s been 48 hours and it’s been constant, wtaf is this about. It’s making me feel really on edge and uncomfortable. I’ve only ever been kind to this woman but it’s all a bit much now as she clearly thinks we are shit parents or something. We are not at all so I’m not remotely concerned about that, our dcs have a good life living beside the sea and we do plenty with them and could not love them anymore . They have a great diet etc. They fight with each other , they don’t always listen, they run constantly but they are kind, never rough and we have firm boundaries. She has looked absolutely appalled when one of them cries or had a tantrum. Her dc never tandrums, never runs off, is totally compliant and is a wonderful child but she’s obvs disgusted with my dc which makes me feel like shit.