What is the norm?

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Do your parents ( or yourselves as parents to grown-up up children) spend an equal amount on you and your dp/DH at Xmas?
Or do you spend more on your own son/DD than you do on their partner?
Speaking as a DD who got gifted £200 from my dad and my dp received a pair of slippers from him.
Felt very uncomfortable Christmas morning.

We both get a £50 note in a card

My parents spend more on my sisters and I than on our husbands, my husband and I spend more on his grown up children than on their spouses, but still buy decent gifts for wives.
Childrens in-laws also follow the same protocol-more for own kids than their spouses.
(Husbands parents although no longer alive were jewish so didnt buy christmas presents).

I imagine I will spend more on my children than their partners when the time comes. Not sure why an equal spend would be due.

I always spend equally on my daughter and her partner, he’s just as much a member of the family as she is, my parents also do the same.
I would feel bloody awful watching him open a single present whilst she has got a huge pile.

My mum spends more on me and my sister than on our husbands. Have never thought it was odd.

My mum spends more on me than she does my husband. I probably spend a bit more on my son than I do my daughter in law. It's the norm. If your partner's parents want to spend equal amounts on you and your partner then that's down to them. You can't expect your parents to do the same just because your in-laws do!

My parents and my in-laws both spend the same on each of us I would say. Often joint gifts. And then they spoil the kids :)

Similar but no I get more from both, say £500 vs £350. Cash is given to split between us but DP always says to keep it for myself.

His family spend much more on him (£40 max on me, £400-1000 on him).

We're not married but been together over 6 years - were not bothered tbh, grateful to receive any gifts and understand that to each their own.

From both my parents that is* they're divorced not from Parents and in-laws

I always spend equally on my daughter and her partner, he’s just as much a member of the family as she is
I'd say that depends how long they've been around. I don't feel that about my daughters' partners yet. One'sonly been around for a year, ffs. I like and thoroughly approve of them, but I don't love them like I love my daughters, so how can I see them the same way?

I would feel bloody awful watching him open a single present whilst she has got a huge pile.
If you're referring to my post, you'd even feel that way when he's made it clear that present receiving makes him uncomfortable and there's genuinely nothing that he wants? I'd feel bloody awful putting him through opening half a dozen presents that he doesn't want, and having to endure the discomfort.

My mum doesn’t about £150 on me, maybe £75 on DH. His parents do the same.

Goodness saraclara I wasn’t referring to your post at all. You seem quite aggressive.
My daughter met her partner when she was 16, he was 17, they have been together 7 years, they lived with me for 3 years whilst saving, he is a member of my family and I care about him very much. Safe to say my son in law to be doesn’t feel uncomfortable opening his presents.