In last stages of divorce following years of v unhappy marriage. Stbex refused to separate regardless of how miserable things were, telling me we needed to work harder. I finally gathered strength and filed for divorce 11 months ago, nearly there now. This Christmas I wanted to make sure the DC aged 18 and 13 had as good a day as possible, as has been difficult year. Went to DH brother and sister in law, with whom we spend most Christmases for Christmas Day, and everyone had a laugh. DH as well. I drove so as usual he got to drink. Boxing day I had 3 hour drive to see my family with the boys, stayed overnight, came back last night. Ex MIL now insisting STBEX takes younger DS and dog to her tomorrow and stays for couple days as she didn't see them on Christmas Day ( but were there for whole of weekend before). I am mightily pissed off. Feel like I've bent over backwards to ensure his family got priority and think it's v selfish to make DS go again. Or am I just being petty? DS1 has refused to go.