I want Christmas to be over and to go back to work

[AriadneO]

I've never said this before having DD, but here I am: I'd rather be at work right now than 'off'.

DH and I are both so, so tired from having DD (almost two) home since 23 Dec. She has a great personality, but she is so strong-willed and a terrible sleeper. DH and I have been nearly constantly ill with various colds and bugs since mid-December. I am 9 weeks pregnant and absolutely exhausted all the time.

My parents came for a few days over Christmas but were no help. They stayed in their room almost the entire time (this is a whole separate issue - not sure if it's a cultural thing (East Asian) or they are just weird) and DD refused to be left alone with them. My relationship with them is increasingly poor, so I found it difficult to talk about this with them.

Anyway, DD has been emotional all morning and is refusing to nap. DH has been vomiting this morning, so he's resting. I'm teetering on the brink of insanity, so have left DD in cot to cry/settle herself. I just needed to rant, thank you for reading this far.

Anyone?

I’m here. That sounds rotten, having constant illnesses and a trying child is incredibly stressful.

I’m also willing the festive period to end. What with crappy family members causing us issues and Christmas reminding me heavily that my grandma died at Christmas last year, I’m ready to rip the tree down and spring into January.

I understand.

It sounds awful, but there's not much left to get through now. When your DH recovers, could he look after your DD for a couple of hours so you could get out by yourself - go for a walk or a coffee or go shopping?

Currently sick at home potty training my 2.5 yr old- going stir crazy!! You have my sympathies - not sure going back to work is the answer I’d rather a wk of sleep

I’m here @AriadneO you’re not alone. In the build up to Christmas I took two weeks of annual leave to look after DS (29mo) who had had ENT surgery and then he was ill in the build up to Christmas. He couldn’t got to a free 3 hours at nursery for the party; I had to drag him to do the Christmas food shop (DH is a chef and has only had 2 days off) and then he was too unwell for us to go to the local Christingle service. The last five days I’ve caught what he’s getting over and I’m just done in. I’m also 5 weeks pregnant.

They say children need routine; well so do I!! Hang in there you’re on the home stretch x

Thanks everyone - I'm sorry you're all having tricky times too, we must all keep our chins up!

The problem is there are too many pressures at this time of year and the hard work of day to day life doesn’t stop. We all still get ill, all the domestic crap still needs to be done, difficult people continue to be difficult etc..
oh and bloody family come to stay!!
Dh and I are exhausted and have totally had enough of adult ds who is home for Uni holidays. Got him here for at least another week. Sigh......

Good for you. I don't. I start back on 6 January and am quite happy about it.

Is her nursery open Mon and Tues? Not long now. My dd driving me mad today, and not back at school until 6th.

We had a vomiting bug one Christmas and it was the worst day of my life.
I'd think twice about having family to stay again if it's not working.
Hope you get some rest soon. I felt much better after about 13 weeks.

@CottonSock they open again on Friday  not too long now, and I suppose I'll probably be lame and miss her once she's back! I agree re family - it's such a shame but my parents visiting induces more stress than it's worth. I want to be a good daughter and support DD's relationship with them, but there's only so much I can do, and I have to look out for myself and my husband too.

@midsomermurderess ok... thanks for your input.

Not being goody, but how are you going to cope when No.2 comes along?

@mummypigx ha thanks!!

Same here, DS' nursery is closed until 7 Jan (school nursery) and we are both missing the normal routine. I'm suffering with frequent migraines and he's going through a very clingy phase so it's testing my patience.

I am with you on this and am glad to be back at work next week.

We have watched so much tv today 😬