Birthday party (for adult) insecurity about guests coming

[Rezie]

I'm turning 30 soon and I've decided to host a party. I haven't really celebrated a birthday as an adult and thought it sounded fun. While composing a guestlist today I got this overwhelming sense of insecurity that what if nobody shows up? Decided to google this and it was definitely not comforting.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for but I felt like I needed to say this outloud to someone. I don't want to not have a party because I'm scared. I don't want to give that power to the anxiety. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.

I'm probably no use but I have never had a party for the same reason. The stress and anxiety of worrying about it wouldnt be worth it to me.

I don't want to not have a party because I'm scared.

This is the key bit isn’t it? It’s good that you’re able to recognise and acknowledge what you’re feeling but I think it’s a case of feel the fear and do it anyway. I reckon it’s one of those irrational fears that a lot of people have, but I’m sure people will turn up and you’ll have a great time!

Thank you for your responses. For some reason over the past few years I've gotten anxiety and gotten more insecure but I don't want it to stop me. I've been trying to tell myself that it will be fine and everyone will have a good time and even if nobody (or very few) shows up, I know where I stand in my friendship circle and it won't kill me.

Do you have one or two friend that you can talk to about feeling nervous?

Get them to come early and help "set up". Have a drink. Then by the time other people start showing up you'll already be feeling relaxed and having fun.

@trills that's a nice idea. I'm not sure I'm comfortable sharing with them but I told my bff about the party and she immediately offered to help. That was very nice. I did share this insecurity with my boyfriend and he comforted me by saying that between 28-30 he was really insecure and had a lot of anxiety but it gets better.