Stance on cheating and knowing

[Kaboni19]

Just interested in opinions and ways of thinking.
I'm very against cheating in any form and I find it difficult to be okay with people who do it and are involved.
I don't want to give too much away and out myself but through a close friend/colleague of mine I know about an affair going on a work and I can't bare talking to the people involved especially when one is talking about their partner to me and the other tells my friend that she enjoys the thrill and they get up to stuff while at work.
I have to talk to one as he is my superior.
I just don't understand how people can cheat and then remain within their actual relationship as if everything is okay.
Baffles me.

Maybe everything in their actual relationship is not ok

Well the one in a relationship tells everyone about the big commitments they have made to their partner and have more coming up while continuing this affair so that's what I mean by acting like things are okay.

A colleague in an old job was having an affair with another colleague, took leave to get married to her long term partner, came back and carried on the affair. Everyone knew, think she was even thrown a “you’re getting married” lunch.

Yeah well in that circumstances then that's not ok you are with someone or your not can't really have it both ways.

Would it not be exhausting keeping two relationships going at once as it seems to be bad enough for those who know

@AnneLovesGilbert Gosh I just don't understand. In this situation not everyone knows about afford but everyone knows about the partner.
I really couldn't believe it when I found out.

@Hpsparkle Right?! As far as I know they don't do anything like dates outside of work - it occurs during work hours or after work night out etc.
I just always think about the poor partner and wish someone would tell her. If she chooses to stay fine but not knowing and thinking she's in a lovely relationship is sad

Yeah that is sad and the newlywed husband to will be non the wiser either

If I know for sure that someone is cheating on someone else, then it’s unfortunately become my business. And the cheated on party has a right to know far more than I do so I would tell them.

If we’d all stop protecting cheaters people might think twice.