How much cash to give one child as a present if his parents have to give a present to each of your two kids

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My two kids 14 & 12 got presents from my brother of £30 & £20.
My wife said we needed to give his child (12) £50 in return.
I said £30 was more than fair and £25 would have been a fairer amount, otherwise his child is getting as much as a child 2 years older.
Eventually for a quiet life I agreed to her getting £35.
Just curious what other people think would have been a fair amount.
We're both quite similar income families.

I think I would be raging that one of my kids got a tenner more than the other tbh. What's that all about?

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I don't give money. I budget £40 ish for family kids (nieces/nephews etc) and £20 roughly for friends kids. None of it is based on what they give mine.

I agree the difference in the amount your children received would irritate me! I would normally say a set amount for every child, regardless of how.many you have or their age but I do sometimes buy me nephew something which is double the amount my 2 children individually receive, just because I can.

Why are you just passing notes around? Thats weird.

I don’t think it matters how many kids there are, just give what you can afford.

I've spent enough time and money buying stuff for 11&12 year olds only for it to sit on a shelf before going to the charity shop.

Why ever did they give them different amounts?

Why on earth do they give different amounts to your 2 kids? I give £10 to each of my SILs 6 children but I dont expect £30 back for each of my 2 children.

I think the same amount for each kid makes the best sense.

That's so silly. Don't give them anything and ask them not to give anything either. It's ridiculous to just exchange cash.

That's mad, agree not to do presents in future. Watch Martin Lewis's video

£30 is the stand family child Christmas/ birthday cash gift. You don't have to 'pay back' what they got if you have more dc. It is very very weird of them to give different amounts though- you do know this don't you.

So you're just passing money back and forth? What is the point?