Anyone have changes they want to make next year?

[NightOwl19]

This year has been quite stressful all round for me and I've realised I do everything for everyone but no myself so next year that's going to change.

I used to love to bake now very rarely do it unless it's with DC so next year I'm going to make an effort to do more.

I've always wanted to try yoga so have a class booked in January.

Anyone have anything they want to change for themselves?

I too don't do enough for myself... Work full time, do most organisation with kids etc.My husband is good with house stuff but we get all types of drama and hassle from his side that takes up time and his health isn't great.
I don't seem to be able to relax properly.. High BP, bad periods, skin complaints and knots in back... All controlled with meds or massage but I think it's just masking fact I need to deal with stress and give me some me time. I also need to turn my brain off though... Become more calm and content.
Not sure how I do that.... I have no hobbies...

I'm also going to do yoga and think need to start swimming (if doesn't make skin glare up). I'm wondering about the BBC doctor in the house book... The 4 pillar plan... Looks good... But need to make the changes....
Hopefully this chat thread will give me inspiration...

I need to eat more veg and exercise a bit more. Ive been feeling a bit bleurgh the last few weeks and tjink tjis will probably help.

I'd love to give up sugar. I'm a complete addict and it dominates my diet/ the way I feel about myself. I feel quite pathetic really!

I started running regularly around 13 years ago and have kept it up, makes me feel great. Yet I can't ever seem to get on top of sweet stuff. I need cold turkey!

Im cutting out some toxic people and making a little more time for myself

Yes I need to make changes. I'll 'get my finger' out as soon as possible.

I'm going to start by seeking the support I need for my mental health.
I've made steps towards this already, I'm on antidepressants, antipsychotics and I have a referral to a psychiatrist.
I've also self referred for CBT, and I am going to really focus on myself and figure out how to sort this.

Sleep. A lot more of it. I need, I want it, I must have it, I will be a better person mentally and physically if I just do it. Regular bed time every night. I will need to get up earlier due to a new shift pattern at work, so I intend to use this to give me the kick up the arse I need.

House - do the Katie Berry 30 Days book and then take up TOMM.

So much! One is to really crack on with decluttering the house - Christmas Eve was nearly ruined by a huge row about the mess & I am sick of living in a warehouse!
Get fit again
Try to stop shouting at DD
Try to have a date night once a month. Can’t remember the last time we went out just me & DH
Stop spending, start saving!
Try to see my friends more
Cook from scratch much more often
Stop fretting over little things
Wear different clothes - I have a wardrobe full but always tend to wear the same few things
Have regular massages

I'm going to start the Louise Parker 6 week programme on Jan 2nd when I get back from holiday. I've been feeling tired, sluggish and heavy for a few months anyway but I've been horrified to see some of the photos of me on holiday - I know the camera adds 10lbs etc but in group photos everyone else looks normal as usual and I look like a pasty Jabba the Hutt.

Luckily the programme includes getting more sleep, a digital curfew and decluttering as well as healthy eating and exercise so I hope it will hit all the sweet spots of things I want to improve next year.

happytoday73 have you ever tried yoga before?

HelloCanYouHearMe good luck with cutting the toxic people out of your life, it will be hard at first but worth it in the long run for you

HerRoyalFattyness sounds like you’ve already made amazing progress with your mental health

Bunnylady54 any tips of saving and not spending and decluttering feel free to send my way! Having DC makes it impossible for me to try and chuck anything out!

Xiaoxiong that sounds interesting think I’ll have a google of that

Nightowl19 Yes I've tried yoga before off and on but think I might have finally found somewhere local that is a class/instructor I like. I think I should sign up to do at least 2 classes a week for a few months and see if I can tell difference...

.... 👀Wanders off to Google Louise Parker 6 week program.. 😁

I’ve been doing yoga regularly this year and find it good for de stressing. There are different types - so you need to try different classes and find the one you like. Also some teachers are better than others about helping you get the posture as correct as you can.

I want to do more of the hobbies that I say I do (if that makes sense). And spend more time in nature/ in the fresh air

I really need to and want to greatly reduce the amount I drink. I'm worried I'll not be able to do it though, I had a couple of attempts this year and was very motivated, but seemed to come crashing down even worse than before.

I also want to improve my mental health somehow and get motivated to exercise again, but the alcohol is the one I massively need to tackle so I'm focussing on it first and then hoping the others might happen a little more easily.

Improve my social life and start dating again (I had abusive ex which has made me wary of relationships)
Spend 1 day a week on my business which I've been trying to get off the ground, but work & family gets in the way.
Build up my running, remember to stretch!
Try weights once a week.

happytoday73 and LearningPianoAgain I think I’ll have a research online and different yoga classes then and try a few different ones before I stick to any or quit

Wintertime6 cutting down on alcohol is never the easiest, I usually helps improve mental health once you have though so fingers crossed for you

Rest. I am too busy and this winter was ill with so many bugs, that look after myself is number one priority this year.

The first step I've taken in that direction is to quit booze, because it messes with my sleep and makes me feel awful, even just a glass or two. I've not drunk for over two weeks now and feel very proud of myself.

Also hoping to run a bit more in 2020. But sleep is my number one priority.

Everything. (Slight exaggeration but not much).

I'm a single mum with a 10 month old baby and I constantly feel like I'm treading water trying to balance everything. I feel so much better when I have organisation so that's what I'm going to work on.

I've dipped in and out of TOMM the last few months but I'm going to try and stick to it properly. I've bought a budget planner and a diary and each night I'm going to fill them in and have a to do list for each day. I also have 2 days a week where I'm not in work and little on is in nursery (starting a degree in February so it's so I have days to study) so I'm going to use these days to go to the gym. (I've also bought a food planner for my wall that comes with a removable shopping list).

If I can get some order to my life and hit some goals weight wise and money wise then i know my mental health with really benefit from it so I'm basically working on a life overhaul ha

I'm going to finally conquer my fear of conflict. I come across as quite a strong-willed and assertive persion, but in truth I'm very easily swayed by domineering characters and strong personalities (the joys of being raised by a narc mother!)

I'm also going to 'come out of my shell' more socially. Right now I only socialise at my synagogue, and with online friends. DH is a huge extrovert, and I need to take a leaf from his book and not isolate myself. I'm pg, and if all goes well, I will need to get myself out there more with the DC.

Lose weight. Same every year but I'm so big now it's awful. Toying with 800 fast or slimming world but can't be doing with people making cake out of weetabix or finding ways to make cheat stuff. I just need to stop eating as much and stop eating shit!