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Does it mean anything if a man puts an 'x' at the end of a text?

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changeorendure · 26/12/2019 14:43

I had always thought this was done with someone you fancy. I have moved to a new city and had a few flings with guys who did this at the end of texts. Though one guy did this even as he was clearly closing himself off from me, which was confusing. I ask because there is a guy I know a bit and, the last time I saw him, his behaviour made me think there is a least the potential that he is interested in me. I added him to a WhatsApp group I am in, and when he replied to me on it , he put an 'x' at the end of the text. Is this a polite social convention or could it be a signal he is interested? He's probably later 40's in age.

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Thompson8 · 26/12/2019 14:47

I think young people see it as flirting but older ones as friendly.
Id vote friendly.

JesusMaryAndJosepheen · 26/12/2019 14:49

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changeorendure · 26/12/2019 14:50

Goddamit! I wanted it to mean he fancies me! Grin

Can't somewhere out there support my delusion Smile

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Fraggling · 26/12/2019 14:50

Two young blokes at my work have texted me happy Xmas with kisses after 😁 I assumed they were a bit pissed and responded in kind.

I wouldn't read anything into it, but pay attention to the more old fashioned stuff ie what's said, frequency of contact, does he flirt etc

Creameggcountdown · 26/12/2019 14:50

it doesn’t mean anything. Don’t overthink it. Sometimes people do it automatically.

ringme · 26/12/2019 14:54

Nope.

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changeorendure · 26/12/2019 14:54

At the start of the class he said hello to me by name. You are not actually meant to speak at the start of the class we go to, so I thought that might mean something. He came up to me at the end to compliment me on the work I did at the class, and hugged me ( I saw him hug another woman too though, so he may just be a hugger). When he left he said good bye to me and I watched after him as he was leaving the room, and he turned back to look at me again. Our eyes met and all that Grin.

Och, I am probably seeking out meaning as I could do with a bit of romance. Or even just sex tbh.

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ScreamingValalalalahLalalalah · 26/12/2019 14:57

I'd look more at the behaviour you say has given you cause to think he is interested in you. I don't think an 'x' at the end of a text message means anything other than the person texting has jumped on the recent bandwagon that says a full stop is no longer acceptable at the end of a text message.

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changeorendure · 26/12/2019 15:02

Yes Jesus (well that felt weird!), I must keep cool. If he goes to another class soon (he doesn't go that often) I will take it as a possible sign he may like me and ask him for a drink - in casual, nonchalant fashion...

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smemorata · 26/12/2019 15:03

Same as when a woman puts one.

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changeorendure · 26/12/2019 15:05

See, I have NEVER had a woman do this at the end of a text to me. Only guys.

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changeorendure · 26/12/2019 15:07

Bit peeved to hear from Screaming that this is a new social convention instead of a full stop though. What was wrong with a full stop? You knew where you were with a full stop. At the end of the sentence. And nowhere else.

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Baguetteaboutit · 26/12/2019 15:07

Lots of people use kisses as punctuation in texts.

Shinyletsbebadguys · 26/12/2019 15:08

Meh sorry OP but it could mean a variety of things. It could mean he fancies you but in fairness my DP has accidentally done it to women (then been mildly horrified ) when he has been texting me just before , or his mother etc etc. It could also be just a habit hes gotten into.

Saying that, just go for it and ask him out , he can only say no and then you style it out. Lifes too short for hanging about and analysing texts....just take the bull by the horns and ask him for that drink.

birdsdestiny · 26/12/2019 15:12

I am not sure but can maybe explain what worrying about an extra x on the end of a text means. It means that in a few years time you will regret wasting time on wondering whether a man likes you Grin

ButtercupGirI · 26/12/2019 15:14

I live in the SE. It's common for women to put x in the end of their texts - even the ones you barely know! I personally hate doing it to someone who I wouldn't hug in real life.

Eyes contact seem promising, keep flirting :)

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changeorendure · 26/12/2019 15:26

Thank you Buttercup - I thought the looking back at me was potentially promising too! He has a nice gentle voice and a nice manner. I am definitely going to steel myself to ask him for a drink when I see him again!

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ExpletiveFairylighted · 26/12/2019 15:49

It's almost universal amongst women I know, even those I don't know very well, or have an informal business relationship with (eg catsitter). It's just a friendly signoff. So I imagine it isn't that different with men.

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