Pelvic floor and flatunence

[MentalHealth101]

Hi all,

Ever since I gave birth ( 2 months ago) and I have had a very bad prolapse.. this resulted in me passing wind without even being able to stop myself at times as it comes suddenly and quite painfully and my muscles aren’t as controllable as before.

I have been doing my kegels and I believe things might be getting better, but still needs time.

That combined with hormones means this is happening quite frequently and I know it’s not the most sensible thing to do when I have a very sensible partner who I have never heard release any wind and runs to the toilet to do so. I also think he finds it unattractive. He is too polite to mention anything and I explained about my pelvic floor briefly and he is understanding.

But I can’t help but feel disgusting and disrespectful and unladylike.

Does anyone have recommendations? Still waiting to see physiotherapist.

Physio should definitely help and Pilates long term. Sorry you are having this but honestly your body has done an amazing thing and I'm sure your partner appreciates that. I'm sure you'd feel better if you were both more relaxed about normal biological events and could have a giggle about it rather than feeling so embarrassed. How long have you been together?

It is very early days an will improve. Maybe watch diet for things that make flatulence worse like brocolli, cabbage, curries, too much processed carbs. Everyone is different so find out your triggers and avoid if possible. Good luck

It is early days OP but do go back to your GP, ask to be referred to the specialist women's health physiotherapist, that is what they're there for . They can check the prolapse and check levels are being done correctly- if you're doing them wrong you can create too high of a pelvic tone which can cause pain during sex etc. There are scans that can be done to determine if the prolapse is large enough to warrant a surgical repair and what the nature of the prolapse is (uterus, bladder, rectum or all of the above) but this will often depend on whether you plan to have more children as they will generally wait if not.

The concept of ladylike is dated nonsense OP and very misogynistic, women are not any different to men, we all break wind defecate and urinate, there is not additional shame for a woman for any other reason that misogynistic expectations for them.

A prolapse is a medical issue and there is nothing shameful disgusting or disrespectful about it. Anyone who would think there was would be wrong.

I’d say get over yourselves. Everyone breaks wind. We do and just laugh about it and move on. Jeez if we ran to another room to trump we’d be up and down like yo-yo’s. Lighten up and relax a bit as you know it’s not something abnormal.