Maybe too soon to get engaged?

[Rainbowhairdontcare]

Someone I know just got engaged, she's been seeing her fiance since June last year. Her exH left her February last year. She has two DC, he doesn't have any. Good for her, but usually when DC are involved people wait a bit longer?

everyones different

We got engaged after 3 months of being together and we are still here 14 years later

Meh! It's only an engagement ring, not a legally binding contract.

Good point Worra it could be a very long engagement. My cousin got married within a year of meeting her now DH and they just had their twins. I know that everyone is different

How does it affect you?

I think it's the DC that are throwing you off a bit. If they were both childless I think the consensus would be that it's a fairly average time scale.

Been together 18 mths and you think it's too soon to get engaged? Granted the start of their relationship was quick after her divorce, but maybe she'd started checking out of the marriage during the process.

I married my husband 21 months after I got divorced. I knew it was the right time, and I had checked out of my previous marriage months before the divorce went through thank you exh for cheating on me and making it easier

Not a problem. DH and I went on our first date, 6 weeks later got engaged, 6 months after that got married. 20 years ago, we are the only couple from our friendship group still together.

Nothing to do with you OP. Seems a fairly standard period of time.

No I think it's nice and if it makes them happy what's the issue ?
If was weeks then I'd agree it was a bit soon but I'd still think the above and it's no one's business unless he's horrible I'm not sure why you don't approve.

I usually read here on MN that with DC it usually takes longer.

I read that as 6 months initially instead of 18 and still thought YABU.

My husband and I have been married 7 years.

We were engaged within a year. I have a DS. We knew each other as friends before hand but he didn't know my son then. We clicked instantly and I knew I would end up with him.

People are different. Why can't you be happy for her rather than questioning what they are doing?

If they know, they know. None of your business OP.