My friend is a guy who is going through a divorce who has a 17 yr old son and 14 yr old daughter. He has done everything for his kids he loves them with all his heart. His son went off the rails at 16, started to hang around with the wrong crowd and smoking weed, yet on the other hand was doing Fire Cadets, D of E and finished school with 5 GCSEs of reasonable grades. My friend is still living in the family home but in separate bedrooms to his wife, they have not told the children they are getting divorced specifically but they’re not stupid, the atmosphere isn’t great. My friend takes the kids out regularly, tries really hard to encourage them. He has bought a car for his son (he paid 2/3, his son 1/3) and he had a bulk lot of lessons for his birthday. His son has not wanted for anything, in fact he’s had a really lovely childhood. His son has now started getting angry and punching holes in walls and raging to the point he’s broken his hand and foot. There was an argument on Christmas Eve when he kicked the wall and stormed out and said he wasn’t coming back for Christmas. My friend is tearing his hair out because as soon as he tries to instil any discipline his son kicks off angrily, yet he’s trying to encourage him and set him up for life. His behaviour has definitely deteriorated since the weed habit. Anyway yesterday my friend drove to his mums house and when he got there he discovered that his car door had been kicked in ...he thinks his son has done it in temper. He had a terrible day yesterday contemplating how he’s going to handle it. He didn’t spend Christmas Day with his wife and kids because that was their arrangement (his wife’s doing) so he’s going back today to face them. Things are toxic at home which is obviously causing all this upset and anger, but this is mainly his wife’s doing yet my friend is getting all the grief. I feel so sorry for him, he’s a broken man. He now has about £1k worth of damage to a lease car and doesn’t really know what to do. He’s at the point of wanting his son to leave. It’s such a mess...any thoughts ? I think my friend should leave and go and move in with his mum. He says he won’t because of the divorce and making sure the house is not destroyed by his son. Where does he turn to get help for his son or is this something his son will grow out of? I’ve got grown up girl who were nothing like this so struggling to help