Am absolutely on my knees and need help/advice desperately

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I am going 9ut of my mind. DD has just turned 17 months. Never a great sleeper, but we were managing with cosleeping and breastfeeding. She is still in her cosleeper crib but we were intending to move her into her own room in the new year. We were going to put our cot on the toddler bed setting as she hates the cot

We've had a bad spell of illness this past few weeks, and her sleep has gone to shit. The last four nights DH and I have basically taken turns walking her all evening in our bedroom, it's like having a colicky newborn again. She just screams and screams with rage. Settles, then screams when we try to put her down. Two or three attempts later and we can put her down and she will sleep for perhaps half an hour before waking up with piercing shrieks again. One nap a day lasting about an hour.

She's had Calpol and all the rest. I can see DH on the monitor, he's rocking her and shhing her and she's just doing those little quiet hiccuping sobs before letting rip again. When we go to bed ourself she's generally OK and will sleep well, but to be honest I want my evenings with my husband, plus I need to do stuff for work in the evenings too.

What on earth do I do? We're both completely worn out. The screams and clawing at faces and exhaustion is just terrible

I made a big fuss over the big girl bed, got bedding she loved, put her favourite teddies in then at night I sat with her in it (luckily its a sturdy toddler bed!) until she drifted off. Took a while at first but she wasn't upset during it just took a while to adjust.

She is 3 now and I still ait in with her at bedtime which takes about 15 mins now. I wasn't prepared to leave her to cry (not judging those who do just wasnt for me) so was willing to try anything.

She was an absolute nightmare of a sleeper and became a different child at night once in a bed. Never had a problem with her getting out of it in the night either I've always just told her to shout if she needs me, which she does.

Have you considered a Lulladoll ?
I think one might work for you here. It’s helping me transition my never spent an hour in a bed without me two years old to someone who still co sleeps but has naps in his own bed in the day and will settle for three hours in the eggnog in my bed before I go up

The ear infections are awful. My youngest has had United band it sometimes takes a good few days for the pain to subside

Eggnog?
That should read evening

Though who wouldn’t settle in eggnog 😬