How do you cope with selfish adult siblings at Xmas?

[ConfessionsOfTeenageDramaQueen]

We live abroad. We invited my DF, who lives alone, to be with us over Xmas but he didn't want to do the flight due to health concerns. For various reasons we unfortunately couldn't fly home for Xmas.

My "D"B, however, has spent probably the 10th consecutive Xmas/NYE with his wife's family. They have never once invited my dad nor ever thought to alternate between her family and my dad.

DB doesn't seem to give a crap about my dad being alone while he and his wife live-stream their Instagram fantasy Xmas and I feel very upset for my dad.

Is anyone else in a similar situation? How do you navigate it?

My brother is exactly like this. There's nothing you can do really. As horrible as I feel this sort of behavior is, there's no requirement on your brother to host your father and he's well within his rights not to, but it does show him up for the type of person he is. A selfish one. I'm sure your father is hurt by it. There's no real solution to it. You could try broaching it with your brother but if he's anything like mine it will cause a massive row and nothing will change anyway.

What does he do the rest of the year? Christmas is one day afterall. You live away so presumably can't/don't do much of the day to day stuff.

Not the same scenario but I have a sibling who would start an argument/cause offence in an empty house.

These last few years have been so much easier as I have lived away and she was in a long distance relationship.

This is the last year I will be able to minimise the impact on the day, and I massively worry about the Christmases to come as our parents age

We only just moved and this was one of the main reasons why. Fortunately (touch wood) my dad is fairly self sufficient so other than having him round for dinner they don't have to do much the rest of the year (although it should be noted my dad does a lot of stuff for my DB, random chores etc).

*having him round for dinner occasionally

Thanks @Snipples - it's reassuring to know there are others who understand how difficult it is.

And @VanyaHargreeves solidarity - it's so difficult coping with unreasonable siblings, especially at this time of year.

My parents (both now dead) were divorced and every year my siblings and I would discuss well in advance which of us would have which parent to make sure that they were not alone.

My father remarried. His wife had three adult children (all married with their own children) and didn't really get on with any of her children's spouses. Not once did her children invite their mother/my father to spend Christmas with them.

I presume they knew they didn't have to, as one of us would have them. We didn't mind at all, although for the last few years my stepmother's dementia made her a difficult houseguest, but I know it always used to upset her that she never got to spend Christmas with her own children.