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Speedy question re food poisoning risk v upsetting MIL - pregnant

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Dollywilde · 25/12/2019 13:02

I’m 7 weeks pregnant. MIL is absolutely lovely (and is aware).

She’s done us creamed leeks as one veg dish for Christmas dinner and I’ve just realised it’s in the pot that’s been sat on the hob since we arrived yesterday. On further subtle investigation it emerges that they were made up yesterday lunchtime and have been sitting out since.

So - creamed leeks (leek, flour, milk) sat out 30 hours in a warm house then reheated - food poisoning risk? I don’t want to upset MIL by refusing them (and she’s lovely but 70 and doesn’t get restricted pregnancy diet - she was really shocked when I refused a second coffee due to limiting caffeine) but at the same time risking food poisoning when pregnant is a bit silly right?

For what it’s worth if I weren’t pregnant I’d probably give them a sniff and if they didn’t smell funny eat them anyway.

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eveshopper · 25/12/2019 13:09

Don't upset her, just don't eat it. No big deal. If it's help yourself take none, of it's on your plate just work round it. Or tell her no thanks to them. But don't mention pregnancy and make an issue of it. Not worth the hassle.

I wouldn't eat then and I'm not pregnant!

crochetandshit · 25/12/2019 13:15

Blame feeling queasy Smile

TowelStripes · 25/12/2019 13:16

I'd eat personally but if you'll be anxious, then just avoid as not worth worrying after the fact.

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FairyLightsAreMyCrack · 25/12/2019 13:17

Pretend it makes you feel sick, blame pregnancy to save feelings Xmas Wink

ShivD · 25/12/2019 13:18

I would just say you have a pregnancy aversion to leeks and avoid them.

AlaskaElfForGin · 25/12/2019 13:25

Don't make a big deal of them at all just don't eat them. If you feel you need to pretend to eat them out the tiniest amount on your plate and hide them under a potato! I wouldn't notice what anyone else ate at the best of times never mind christmas day.

Hoppinggreen · 25/12/2019 13:28

When I was pg I stopped eating anything FIL made on the BBQ as he had no idea about hygiene, for example anything that fell on the floor was just chucked back on for 5 minutes to burn off the dirt.
Didn’t give 2 fucks who I offended

TheMouldNeverBotheredMeAnyway · 25/12/2019 13:29

I wouldn't fancy eating them, pregnant or not. I think you need to learn how to be politely assertive, rather than worrying that you might "cause offence" through having your own preferences and opinions. When you have a child all sorts of small issues will crop up with extended family where you might need to say "no thank you" for your child's best interests, and you should be able to do this without worrying they will be offended.

sippingcoffee · 25/12/2019 13:31

I wouldn't want leeks anyway as they are too strong flavoured , can you not say you don't like leeks or are finding the flavour / smell makes you nauseous?

coconuttelegraph · 25/12/2019 13:32

I'm nowhere near 70 and I didnt know you had to restrict coffee when pregnant Smile

Is she really going to be keeping watch on what you eat? Does everyone have to eat everything on offer? Surely you just leave it on your plate.

misspiggy19 · 25/12/2019 13:46

I wouldn’t eat it either

dementedpixie · 25/12/2019 13:51

I'm nowhere near 70 and I didnt know you had to restrict coffee when pregnant

its caffeine that you're supposed to limit to 200mg per day. It can affect the baby's birth weight. Foods/drinks would include chocolate, tea, coffee, cola, etc

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Dollywilde · 25/12/2019 13:54

Oh definitely didn’t mean it like she’s going to be cross or keeping a heady eye! More that it would go:

Mil: oh Dolly, you don’t have any leeks, let me get you some!
Me: Thanks so much MIL but I don’t want to chance it with them having sat out all night
Mil: Oh god I’m so sorry, I didn’t think, I shouldn’t have done that

I just don’t want to make her feel bad about anything! Plus I’m totally blase about food risks usually so finding it a bit weird to have to worry now. Wouldn’t usually mind the risk if just me but obviously it’s not any more Smile

Thanks for the views - good to know I’m not overworrying on the risk. Will use slight queasiness (which to be fair is coming and going all the time anyway) if anyone notices Smile

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Panpastels · 25/12/2019 14:03

I can't eat leaks due to ibs, can you have developed some issues... Smile

cantfindname · 25/12/2019 14:03

I imagine the milk in the sauce will have curdled by now. I doubt it will actually give you food poisoning but it won't be nice at all.

EvaHarknessRose · 25/12/2019 14:26

Just say 'I'm being a super cautious newly pregnant person, I have to be careful about food that has been stored out and reheated, please indulge me, the food is delicious and you have been so kind.'

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