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Thread for people alone today

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sashh · 25/12/2019 08:27

I couldn't see another thread. I know a couple of people earlier in the week who were not looking forward to today because they are on their own.

So this is the thread to just have a chat.

I don't do Xmas so I'm just having coffee and serving virtual coffee to other MNers.

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Orchardgreen · 25/12/2019 09:43

I’m on my own for the whole day after a lifetime of either working in the NHS or being single, expected to spend time at my parents. Am now finally free of ties. My sister was excused being married with a child. Confused I preferred to work!
So although I’m feeling a bit meh, it’s sunny outside, my lovely dog wants a walk, and I have a tiny gammon to cook, a sticky toffee pudding, Baileys flavoured cream, wine, and Netflix.

AngelaScandal · 25/12/2019 09:48

Solidarity sisters. @IsItTooEarlyForABaileys I insist you wear that scarf.

@Dazedandconfused10 gentle hugs lovely.

Daisydaysgoneby · 25/12/2019 09:49

We are on our own for the first time ever following a family rift last year.

The sun is shining, the birds have been fed and the cat is content.

I am going to do some yoga then go for a walk.

Count the blessings.

What are yours.

Nicolastuffedone · 25/12/2019 09:50

Show us the scarf! Show us the scarf! Show us the scarf.......

Bcandleabe · 25/12/2019 10:06

On my own too for the first time. It's really weird and I really should get out of bed (I will in a few mins to go crack open my baileys 🙂). Wear your scarf and have your baileys and enjoy it before you know it we are all back to normal hussle and bussle with no time to just sit back n chill

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sashh · 25/12/2019 10:10

I think we all need to wear scarves and have a tipple.

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Dazedandconfused10 · 25/12/2019 10:10

Thanks guys. Hiding in my room until he decides to leave. Might go for a drive or something to pass the time til it's acceptable to make a start on the fizz and the beer. This sucks.

Considering booking a last minute holiday for the rest of the year!

DanFmDorking · 25/12/2019 10:17

Can I invite you to try the Christmas Puzzle.
Merry Christmas Xmas Smile - Dan

HelloIsitXmasTreeYoureLookingF · 25/12/2019 10:22

I'd love to see the scarf too.

Dazed was it in the pipeline? Best wishes

Daisydaysgoneby · 25/12/2019 10:28

We all need a scarf !

Dazedandconfused10 · 25/12/2019 10:31

@HelloIsitXmasTreeYoureLookingF we've been having issues and I have put my all into resolving them but then he decided yesterday's he's been unhappy for 3 years and so wants out. Which makes me feel very used. He wants to stay friends but for me that's not possible at all.

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 25/12/2019 11:41

til it's acceptable to make a start on the fizz and the beer

That's been acceptable since at least 4am so crack on. 😜

Dazedandconfused10 · 25/12/2019 11:50

Haha I was trying to hold out til midday. Hub has gone to visit his parents. I'm not sure if he is still expecting me to cook dinner later. It's all a mess so sod it beer o clock it is!

madcatladyforever · 25/12/2019 12:01

I do exactly the same most years SingingLily, I love the peace and quiet.

viccat · 25/12/2019 12:12

I'm a pro at having a solo Xmas by now, this must be the 8th in a row if my calculations are correct.

I have some lovely veggie Xmas treats waiting for later and the cats got their presents last night. Planning to watch TV, eat chocolate and generally have a lazy day. Smile

Dazedandconfused10 · 25/12/2019 20:40

Omg. Today has been horrendous. He came home and I just don't know how to act around him. I still really love him but he has made his mind up. I don't feel like I can make him leave his name is in the house too. He's trying to be normal but it's just making me feel worse. So much worse.

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 25/12/2019 20:49

Dazedandconfused10

Can you make preparations to leave? Head to parents? Friends? Rent somewhere etc?

I've tried living with an ex, its vile, one of the most hellish experiences I my life actually. Like walking on eggshells and anxiety all the time.

Dazedandconfused10 · 25/12/2019 21:14

I've told him he needs to leave if he won't give it a try. He can't afford the place on his own. I can. So he's got 48 hours to find somewhere and get out my life.

beautifulstranger101 · 25/12/2019 21:15

I do need to catch up, I also got a free Netflix subscription for 2 months so any recommendations? I love thrillers, things you can't guess the ending

You'd love the film "fractured" on Netflix and the series Black Mirror!

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 25/12/2019 21:18

Dazedandconfused10

Sounds good. Let's hope he gets out your hair and you can sort stuff amicably moving forward. :)

Iprefergin · 25/12/2019 21:30

Hi Everyone

Another Christmas loner here :)

Dazedandconfused10 · 25/12/2019 21:33

@MonkeyToesOfDoom thanks. I'm sure we will but I'm gonna tell him he needs to give me a month or two of no contact to help me get over him/sort my life out.

Orchardgreen · 25/12/2019 22:27

@Iprefergin
Hello! It’s not so bad is it? But I would like to smack the first person in real life who smugly asks me how was my Christmas.

Mine’s been good actually. Fab sunny walk with Dog, muddy paws at home required floor mopping. Gammon cooked and scoffed. All ok.
Gavin and Stacey. Tidy.

SleighOfSparkliness · 25/12/2019 23:06

I’ve had a lazy day of food and movies.

I had a phone call with my mum, which was quite hard.

Now for cake and wine.

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sashh · 25/12/2019 23:47

Just popped back to say well done to those having a difficult time, you survived today.

Thank's for the Netflix recommendations.

See some of you next Xmas.

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