Am I in the wrong for doing this?

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Hi all, not sure we're to post so hoping I will get some advice here.

A week ago I went to see my gp regarding a mark I have on one of breast, she seemed a bit concerned but told me to wait a week to see if it disappears and if not to come straight back the following week to see her. I felt she really listened and understood how I was feeling regarding me being worried about this mark, a week passed and the mark is still there so I make another app to go back and see her today, I go to my appointment today and it's with a male dr who completely brushed me off and acted asif I had nothing to worry about even though my previous app with the female dr told me to come back so she could refer me to the breast clinic. The dr said he could refer me to gynaecologist if it made me happy! I left the appointment quite annoyed as I felt I had been ignored and referred to the wrong place. When I was walking to my car I seen the female gp I had previously seen. I went over to her and asked if I could have a quick word, she quickly and abruptly brushed me off saying 'I am off duty, I am sick, I have a daughter to worry about I can't speak to you' to which I seemed a bit shocked and said I only wanted to query if a gynaecologist was the correct person I should be seeing following our last app. She rolled her eyes and said yes. She made me feel completely humiliated as there was someone standing right by us. In my previous app with her she made me feel like she cared and she needed to see me again. Then when I do see her and simply wanted some advice she was completely rude, I am right to be annoyed by this? Or am I in the wrong for speaking to her outside of her office?

Tbh I just thought it was human decency to help someone who is clearly worried about something that you have previously helped and advised them on.

Thanks

Would the 2nd Gp have said ‘oncologist’ rather that gynaecologist?

Sorry I meant dermatologist!!

Why have you started two threads? Is it a duplicate in error?

I have advised in the second thread why. Thank you.

I think you were unfair to approach the female doctor after just having had an appointment with her colleague.

If you were so concerned about people close by overhearing your conversation, maybe you shouldn't have started it?

I appreciate you are worried, and hope your mind is soon put at rest.

I understand you are upset, but you can not complain about other people witnessing your conversation if you ambushed them GP in a public car park.

Kee the dermatologist appointment and if it gets worse in the interim as for a follow up spot.

Also, if this was today then I am sure the oddity GP had a minion things to do, just like the rest of us.

I understand, I do regret approaching her as she instantly knocked me down and I felt a fool for doing it

I think you were wrong to approach her in the car park. If you were unhappy about your diagnosis, you should have asked for another appointment, or asked for the original female Gp to give you a call at a later date.

The gp was in the car -Park without your notes in front of her. She may or may-not have remembered what your appointment was about, or what she said.

You approached her in a public place. If you wanted confidentiality, You should have booked a regular appointment with her.

It is human decency to help someone, but the dr is a professional and there is a time and place for appointments. They’re not on-call 24/7.

Why, when she told you she was off duty, ill and worried about her DD did you not apologise and walk away!
You were the rude one!

I too think it was unfair to approach her in the car park. She can’t examine you, has no notes to refer to and - most importantly- isn’t at work. I know you were concerned but your GP said he would refer you on, it’s not being ignored and you could have asked for a follow up appointment.

I’m sorry you felt humiliated, it sounds like she was trying to keep professional boundaries in place, which is never easy. I do think you were in the wrong here.